FANTASY !!!!!…Hmmm…., already lost in thought. When we talk about fantasies the first thing

comes to mind are dirty thoughts and ideas guys and girls have about themselves, like i met a guy who had a fantasy about making love to a pregnant prostitue…how absurd. But really fantasies dont always have to be dirty, like a female friend of mine had a fantasy of getting married in place of work and having a ”keke napep” as her getaway vehicle, now thats far from dirty but it still is a fantasy.

Fantasies could play a vital role in a relationship and at the same time could be quite detrimental not just to the relationship but to the relationship but to the mind (as in the case of my friend and the pregnant prostitute) Sharing of fantasies between couples is a health way of strengthning the bond between them, where the lady feels safe letting her man in on her innermost desires, it brings a feeling of security and trust between them, where as some ladies might feel scared to tell their spouse exactly how she wants to be held and touched, for fear of rejection and being called dirty.

And for the guys, most guys have some very ”nasty” fantasies which they may feel uneasy sharing with thier partner. Bottom line, guys be open with your partners and please LISTEN, i know it’s hard but listen to the ladies, you might even hear what they really feel inside..their true fantasies. Hmmmm ! And ladies, take time to find out what your partner’s fantasies are, it might just make the relationships get more interesting.

Fantasies are also crazy ideas going through minds of individuals, most are usually left unsaid but often thought about. Reality and Fantasy are very close but what marks the difference is the action behind bringing the fantasy into reality. We all have fantasies over a lot of things not necessarily sexual urges but dreams, goals and desires for achievements in life.  But unfortunately, these fantasies which are good usually ends up as pictures in the brain which fades off with time.

 It has always been said that ” Guard your heart with all diligence for out of it flows the issues of life “.  Whatever you feed your mind with, that is what it will act on.  I therefore beseech brethren, try as much as possible to feed your heart with all positive things in life because it determines to a large extent what becomes of everyone.

Stay Blessed and stay tuned …………………………………………….

Guyz, what’s responsible for this attitude?? Pick up your calls and tell us your story, and also post your comments on here;;

Phone Logs:

Charles; This topic does apply to me,, i am a playa and as a matter of fact, i have more than 5 girlfriend. The funny thing is that, these girls are not interested in money or some material things, though some are in for that. But to me, what they want is just my company and i am giving it to them the way the want it. But now i am married and i a very faithful to me wife. Don’t wanna be a playa nomore !!  But i am still friends with my ex-girlfriends and there is nothing intimate going on between us.

Ifeanyi: Am a playa and unfortunately for me, it is full of fun for me. It is so hard for me because the girls keep coming. The truth is that, these ladies start up the whole thing, so i give it to them. But now i am getting fed up of these ladies because i want to settle down but they keep coming back.

Anynonous: The situation of things is so worrisome but its alarming how easy it is for guys to keep large number of girls. The reason(s) a guy or a lady keeps more than a partner is quite an issue and everyone will definitely have a point to defend his or herself.

Anonymous 2: It is simply the ladies fault. I have seen cases where a guy would tell a girl that he is in a relationship but the lady still doesnt care, she is bent on having her way with the guy. And when this happens, what do you expect or think?  The ladies make it too easy for guys to get them because they appear so cheap, desperate and vulnerable. As for me, i am getting married soon and i love my wife so much. I was once a playa.

Anonymous 2’s babe: I am aware that he was the lady kind of guy, we understand eachother and i am cool with him.

Tony : Ladies are at fault. Their eyes are always popping out when they see a cute, goodlooking and averagely ok guy. You see them flocking around these guys with lustful intentions, and by so doing, they fall prey to these guys. Even though they know these guys are married or engaged, they still want to have their way.

Chaz B: Ladies please slow down on these guys and look out for your own man. A text comes in saying, Chaz B, why are you exposing us??

Tony: These ladies are just as unruly as these guys. I am not a playa though.

Maureen: If 10 guys calls a lady, be rest assured that 7 out of them are playaz. Guys should just accept and say to the ladies that they just want to have fun instead of fooling us around.

Chaz B: Is there anyone that wants to testify if the ladies care if there is a ring or not??

Ade: Playaz gat games and they know how to lure the ladies, so ladies beware. And some ladies are cons too..

Supo: Wants to disagree and agree with some few people. There are ladies with self esteem and many with low self esteem. Guys can easily identify these ladies from the crowd. They go for what suits their present desires.

Chiamaka: If a guy meets a lady for the first time and lures the lady to bed, they guy is as worse as the lady because they are both cheap.

******: How would you know if a guy is serious or not? Most men just want to lay with a lady under the pretence of being serious.

Chaz B; Ladies should device pranks on their men to test their seriousness but please, donot go to the extreme cos it could go the other way.

Amaka:  Chaz B, am not happy with you at all, cos you are not telling these guys what they are doing is very wrong and uncalled for.

Chaz B:  But this happens every now and then.

Bimpe: Guys are at fault, all they want to do is to get a lady laid by saying so many sweet words.

John: Most girls appear cheap, and this makes it hard for guys to get serious with one woman because of how they potray themselves.  Guys assume that your girls are only yours when they are with you and belong to others when they are not with you.

Chaz B: In conclusion, for the Gents, would you want your sister, daughter, neice or aunty to be played by other guyz???

Deola: God has given us the spirit of freewill. It is upto everyone to decide what is best for them instead of putting blames on others.

Finally; Guard your heart with all Diligence because out of it flows the issues of life. Proverbs 4:23

Thank You.

Phone Logs;

Anonymous:  Before i got married, i had dated married men just to satisfy my materialistic affection. But now that i am married, i have this bad feeling that keeps pricking me that young ladies out there would dating my husband.  Because i know within me that what goes around comes around. I keep praying to God for forgiveness.

Tripple X : I am a loving guy and i attend to the ladies needs, i am supportive and caring. So tell me why wont the ladies flock all around me? . But the truth of the matter is, if a lady gets involved with you because of the material things you provide for her, then you are in for the wrong woman.

Desmond:  Whatever you sow, you will reap. Its as simple as that.

Bimbo:  for the ladies, ask God for directions and mercies when it comes to relationships. Don’t ever involve yourself with a married man, because when you get married, you wouldn’t be happy to find out your husband is having an affair with some young girls outside matrimony. Therefore, do unto others as you want them to do to you.

Lanre: Its unfortunate to find out that some so called Men of God take advantage of their ministries to commit all sorts of attrocities with young ladies.

Etineh: Has a younger sister dating a married pastor and the younger sister doesn’t care despite the fact that everyone knows about it.

Chaz B : Concerned men of God should read the books of Revelation in the Bible.

Daniel : Ladies of nowadays are not ready to build up a relationship with an aspiring young man, instead, they look around for rich and made men who can satisfy their needs, and consequently, they end up been used and jilted, sadly. 

Chaz B: Its amazing how some ladies feel comfortable when a married man tells them he would leave or send his wife away so as to bring them to the house.  Ladies should think , and ask themselves this question… Do they expect to be happy in their own marriage with the man?

Anonymous : Found out that my  husband is involved in serious affairs outside marriage but i didn’t know all the while. I am still living with him because of my daughter,,, or else, i can’t stand living with him.

Chaz B : Please read the book of James chapter 1

Peter : the toxic relationship is 2-way thing, both the man and the woman are both to be blamed.

Grace: The affairs these ladies  go into, sadly, they don’t know the negative implications it has on them. They are just like batteries, the more it is used, they more it weakens and looses value. My advice to married women and single ladies is that, always keep good looks, dress nice, because you have to always keep your man attracted to you..

Tunde : There is a high level of moral decadence in our society. Ladies should add values to themselves instead of looking for a man to take care of them. No man is interested in settling with a liability, even though they have affairs with you.

Yvonne: It is all about feeling loved. But the trust of the matter is that,, Dating a married a wrong. What is bad is bad, it has no other name other than BAD.

Chaz B : Guard your mind with all your heart because out of it flows the good things of life.