Prostitution is often referred to as the “oldest profession.” Indeed, it has always been a common way for women to make money, even in Bible times. The Bible tells us that prostitution is immoral. Proverbs 23:27-28 says, “For a prostitute is a deep pit and a wayward wife is a narrow well. Like a bandit she lies in wait, and multiplies the unfaithful among men.”

Prostitution not only destroys marriages, families, and lives, but it destroys the spirit and soul in a way that leads to physical and spiritual death. God’s desire is that we stay pure and use our bodies as tools for His use and glory (Romans 6:13). First Corinthians 6:13 says, “The body is not for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.”

Although prostitution is sinful, prostitutes are not beyond God’s scope of forgiveness. The Bible records His use of a prostitute named Rahab to further the fulfillment of His plan. As a result of her obedience, she and her family were rewarded and blessed (Joshua 2:1; 6:17-25). In the New Testament, a woman who had been known for being a sexual sinner—before Jesus forgave and cleansed her from sin—found an opportunity to serve Jesus while He was visiting in the home of a Pharisee. The woman, recognizing Christ for who He is, brought a bottle of expensive perfume to Him. In regret and repentance, the woman wept and poured perfume on His feet, wiping it with her hair. When the Pharisees criticized Jesus for accepting this act of love from the “immoral” woman, He admonished them and accepted the woman’s worship. Because of her faith, Christ had forgiven all her sins, and she was received into His kingdom (Luke 7:36-50).

Just like anyone else, prostitutes have the opportunity to receive salvation and eternal life from God, to be cleansed of all their unrighteousness and be given a brand new life! All they must do is turn away from their sinful lifestyle and turn to the living God, whose grace and mercy are boundless. “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come!” (2 Corinthians 5:17).

Money could also, in a certain sense, buy you love, but only with someone who only cares whether or not you have a good amount of money in the bank. It can’t buy your true love since that person will most likely care more about your money than about you. All money can really do for you is help you pay the bills and get things that you wouldn’t have otherwise.

Happiness simply does not come from owning a nice house and a nice car and maybe even hiring people to do all the yardwork and cleaning in the house. Those things can certainly be nice, but they won’t bring true happiness. True happiness comes from doing things that you love and being able to express the things that your passionate about. A big house can’t do that for you, and neither can an expensive car. They might look nice and they may make you more popular, but they will not make you happy if your dreams are less superficial.

RELATIONSHIPS are very similar to fireplaces. They can bring warmth and comfort into your home , making it a cozy place to escape the harsh elements we often face outside, but it take work.If you want a bigger and hotter fire you have to put more wood in the fireplace and because wood gets consumed rather quickly, in order to maintain the same level of heat, you must put wood in the fire at the same rate that it is being consumed. 

Love is a wonderful thing when both people contribute to the relationship.When love is fresh and new, you tend to notice the small things, compliment each other often and make continous effort with keeping it new and alive. As time goes on, so does life. Your life becomes hectic or busy with other priorities like work, children or household chores. They start squeezing out the love you once had. What happens next is that the flame goes out and the heat is gone!

Instead of blaming themselves for not feeding the fire, many couples blame the fireplace and say that it stopped working and they all too often begin to look for warmth from other sources. Couples in this cartegory stop holding hands, hugs become a thing of the past, dinner is spent reading the newspaper (if they even still eat together) and when the meal is over, he goes his way and she goes hers.

A relationship requires constant work and attention. The enemy wants us to take all of our focus off the relationship and apply it elsewhere, knowing that if we keep our eyes off it long enough we will loose it.Think back on how you treated each other when you first met, how you talked and the actions you took. Think back to the time when things were great and full of passion and do now what you did then.

Introduction:

Incest is any sexual activity between close relatives ranging from fondling to intercourse between family members who are not married (often within the immediate family)  irrespective of the ages of the participants and irrespective of their consent. Generally, it is considered incest if the child has been used in a sexual manner by: fathers, or step-fathers, mothers, or step-mothers, brothers, sisters or cousins as well as members of their extended family such as grandparents, aunts and uncles. Incest is any sexual activity between close relatives (often within the immediate family) irrespective of the ages of the participants and irrespective of their consent, that is illegal, socially taboo or contrary to a religious norm. The type of sexual activity and the nature of the relationship between people that constitutes a breach of law or social taboo vary with culture and jurisdiction. Some societies consider it to include only those who live in the same household, or who belong to the same clan or lineage; other societies consider it to include “blood relatives”; other societies further include those related by adoption or marriage.

The most frequently reported type of incest is father-daughter incest. However,sibling incest occurs as often, or more often, than other types of incest. Incest between adults and prepubescent or adolescent children is considered a form of child sexual abuse that has been shown to be one of the most extreme forms of childhood trauma, a trauma that often does serious and long-term psychological damage, especially in the case of parental incest.

Whatever the reason or the excuse for incest the offenders use, it is wrong! Adults are responsible for protecting, loving and nurturing children, not traumatising and hurting them.

Sexual abuse of any kind is a traumatic experience, but it doesn’t have to ruin your life You may feel guilty because you consented to incest or allowed yourself to be molested. Nevertheless, God will forgive you.

To feel truly free, its important that you forgive your abuser. Holding on to the resentment and anger will only hurt you and you will not feel totally cleansed. Once you pray for the person and ask God to forgive him or her, the heavyburden within your heart will be lifted away. Although it is often hard to forgive and forget, you can REMEMBER WITH FORGIVENESS.

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Phone Logs:

Anon: Not feeling fine  because i have a feeling no one cares about me. I am always in and out of loneliness and to make matters worse, i am still staying with my parents. I am 32 years old and still single. I think my lonliness is as a result of my not been married, i want a family of my own with kids.

Cynthia: lonliness is a part of my world, am 38 yrs old not married. I have never been lucky in my relationships. I feel so bad about myself, i am the firstborn of my parents and my all my siblings are all married.

Paul: I have been there, done there. Loneliness is real. Before God helped me out of this problem, i have always felt that  am not good enough, i feel so unwanted. My lifestyle  in the past contributed immensely to the problem. But i thank God today that i am very fine and doing ok.

How to step out of loneliness ;
- learn to have fun by developing your social skills’
- learn to be desperate about your passion ( the violent take it force)
- get involved in positive and interesting activities,
- always make good moves,
- loneliness is not the absence of affection but absence of direction,
- Consider others around you apart from your immediate people,
- what can you do to reach out to others ( be a source of happiness to others)
- Showing interest in charity.

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Ola: I fall into the category of the lonely people. Am always depressed. I have mood swings, absent minded. I am 27 yrs, my relationships havent been working well and a lot of people complain about my attitude. I help others out of their emotional problems but my help to others doesnt work for me. I am too laid back and an indoor person. I suffer from lack of expression.

Mary: There is a thin line between depression and loneliness. Loneliness is a thing of the mind. You can be among a lot of people and still feel lonely.

Omoh: Am a lonely person, i have tried to socialise but i still feel lonely. I am 30 yrs old and not in any relationship. My loneliness comes with my being single, and i get quite touchy when i am in this mood.

Uche: Am 31 yrs old, married with a kid. Being married does not solve your loneliness problem. You have to deal with it yourself and learn to make yourself happy.  If you think someone will cure your loneliness, you will end up infecting that person with loneliness. When you are happy about yourself, then you can transfer this to others. God is the only solution known.

Anon: I am a loner maybe because i am not married and i am 39 yrs old and i am worried about my biological clock.

Types of loneliness:

Intimate isolation; which comes from not having anyone in your life you feel affirms who you are.
Relational isolation; which comes from not having face-to-face contacts that are rewarding.
Collective isolation; which comes from not feeling that you’re part of a group or collective beyond individual existence.

What are the causes of loneliness?
Loneliness does not always make sense, but we can explore the causes of loneliness to attempt an analysis. You can be lonely in a room full of people, at a party for instance. You may feel isolated, as if no-one understands — your partner, friends, parents, and colleagues are not really interested in you. These negative perceptions can play heavily upon your emotions.

Understanding the causes of loneliness and recognizing them is part of the battle when you have a desperate feeling of not having anything to live for. Shifting your focus can be a next to impossible. Unfortunately, too many times reaching for a bottle of pills for release is all too easy Doctors may tell you your loneliness is just a chemical imbalance, this may be true. Have you ever considered that your loneliness might have a spiritual root?

God is always present; He is always with us. He is able to draw us from the miry pit that we are in, and stand our feet on the solid rock. We need to shift our focus from our condition and look to the God that created us for a purpose. He sent His Son Jesus Christ to restore the relationship with us and He can ease the pain of loneliness. By trusting His word and accepting His comfort, we never need to be lonely again.

There are several possible reasons people feel lonely; One is that the person already had that special someone and they left (death, divorce, moved to another area, etc.) Another reason is that a person lacks the social skills to make and form friendships. Such persons might be shy or socially anxious. Yet another reason maybe the culture in which we live. Especially in Western culture, society prides itself on individuality and personal freedom. Successful relationships however require some degree of compromise. Comprise may require encroachment on one’s personal freedom which may not be desired. The end result maybe that you don’t find that special someone simply because that special someone is more of a figment of our imagination than an actual real person. A last final reason for people who are trait lonely and yet looking for that special someone they cannot find, maybe due to the fact that they maybe unwilling to let down their defenses. Usually when people are hurt in the past by people they love, they are more unwilling to be open to love the next time it comes around (“once bitten, twice shy”). However, to be in a relationship requires one to let down some of their defenses and be open to the possibility of being hurt again. Only then can true meaningful relationships form. But being open to love requires time, patience and perhaps “taking things slow.” If you cannot be hurt, then you cannot be loved.Loneliness is described by many as a very painful thing. Helping to know what causes your loneliness will help you get rid of it.

 Always remember to ” Guard your heart with all diligence for out of it flows the issues of life”

Love

Which colour of the skin is Superior ?????

SharingLifeIssues through the inspiring voices of Chaz B & Deola have transformed and helped so many depressed people overcome their life problems to live a happy and positive life.

We are not saying much this time, Listeners, Share with us whats going through your mind and how the SharingLifeIssues show have contributed to your lives .

During the show, a lot of people called, even after the show, to tell us how much they hate themselves, how nothing seems to work for them. Remember that their is power in your tongue, so confess positive towards yourself.

Some people wake up with bad appetite for the day ahead of them. Why?!

Look around you, change your view and perception of things. Can’t you see that the world is filled with abundance, so if you know exactly what you want, YOU CAN HAVE IT!!!

“Your circumstances may be unpleasant,
but they shall not long remain so,
if you but perceive of an ideal and strive to achieve it.
For you can not travel within and stand still without”

Share your experience here and you’ll be helping some get out of this situation.

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GUARD YOUR HEART WITH ALL DILIGENCE BECAUSE OUT OF IT FLOWS THE ISSUES OF LIFE

The words that you use and the conversations you have with yourself create things in you. They can create positive things or negative things. It is our choice. The tongue has the power of life and death. This is why it is so important to be diligent in using the power of the tongue to create a positive force in our lives. It is so true. What we say has the ability to create situations, emotions, and thoughts in others. A kind word helps people, negative words hurt – sometimes for a very long time.

You can either choose to learn how to speak and release positive words of love, encouragement and edification to other people in your own personal dealings with them, or you can choose to release negative words of condemnation, criticism, coldness and harshness. The choice is yours!

Every single one of us can stop and think how good we have felt when someone has released and spoken words of love, encouragement and edification to us. Words can cut right through you like a knife, and when those words are positive and constructive, they can have an incredible way of building up your own sense of self-esteem, self-worth and self-confidence.

Remember, your tongue has power. Use it!

Bible Verses:

Proverbs 18:20-21, Proverbs 12:18, Psalm 34:13, Isaiah 50:4, Colosians 4:5, Psalm 141:3, Proverbs 15:28..

****Guard your heart with all diligence for out of it flows the issues of life****

Pressing Issue:

Love at first sight !!!! Do you believe in this ??

Introduction

Behavior: Often, it is assumed that all homosexual people engage in homosexual acts, but this is not always the case. Because of fears or strong religious convictions, some may refrain from sexual behavior, yet experience an intense battle with homosexual attractions.

Psychic Response: A brief definition of this term is, “sexual excitation (stimulation) caused by visual perception or fantasy speculation.” Psychic response is also what people refer to as a “homosexual orientation.” Though many people claim that they have experienced visual or sexual attraction for the same sex “as long as they can remember,” there is a progression in a person’s life that leads to a homosexual psychic response.

Identity: Some people enter into homosexuality through “identity”. These are people who may not have experienced sexual attraction for the same sex or have had any homosexual encounters. However, from an early age, they have felt they were “different” from other people.

Lifestyle: A homosexual may insist that he bears no responsibility for his identity, his psychic response or even his first sexual encounter, which may have been forced upon him. However, every homosexual person must bear the responsibility for his or her choice to enter the homosexual lifestyle.

Leviticus 18:22 – You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination.
Leviticus 20:13 – If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act; they shall surely be put to death. Their blood guiltiness is upon them.
Romans 1:26-27 – For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error.
I Corinthians 6:9 – Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.
I Timothy 1:8-11 – “But we know that the Law is good, if one uses it lawfully, realizing the fact that law is not made for a righteous person, but for those who are lawless and rebellious, for the ungodly and sinners, for the unholy and profane, for those who kill their fathers or mothers, for murderers and immoral men and homosexuals and kidnappers and liars and perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to sound teaching, according to the glorious gospel of the blessed God, with which I have been entrusted.”

Likely factors causing homosexual desires

If homosexual impulses are not inherited, what kinds of influences do cause strong homosexual desires? No one answer is acceptable to all researchers in the field. Important factors, however, seem to fall into four categories and these are;

1. Homosexual experience:

any homosexual experience in childhood, especially if it is a first sexual experience or with an adult

2. Family abnormality:

-a dominant, possessive, or rejecting mother

-an absent, distant, or rejecting father

-a parent with homosexual proclivities, particularly one who molests a child of the same sex

-a sibling with homosexual tendencies, particularly one who molests a brother or sister

-the lack of a religious home environment

-divorce, which often leads to sexual problems for both the children and the adults

-parents who model unconventional sex roles

-condoning homosexuality as a legitimate lifestyle– welcoming homosexuals into the family circle

3. Unusual sexual experience, particularly in early childhood:

-precocious or excessive masturbation

-exposure to pornography in childhood

-depersonalized sex (e.g., group sex)

4. Cultural influences:

-a visible and socially approved homosexual sub-culture that invites curiosity and encourages exploration

-pro-homosexual sex education

-openly homosexual authority figures, such as teacher

-societal and legal toleration of homosexual acts

-depictions of homosexuality as normal and/or desirable behavior.

Can homosexuality be changed?

Certainly, many people have turned away from homosexuality – almost as many people call themselves “gay.”

Clearly the easier problem to eliminate is homosexual behavior. Just as many heterosexuals control their desires to engage in premarital or extramarital sex, so some with homosexual desires discipline themselves to abstain from homosexual contact.

One thing seems to stand out, associations are all-important. Anyone who wants to abstain from homosexual behavior should avoid the company of practicing homosexuals.

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