TEENAGERS – PEER PRESSURE

Monday, August 9, 2010, 18:29

This news item was posted in Children, In Focus, Parenting category and has 26 Comments so far.

Peer pressure is one thing that all teens have in common. You can’t escape it. It is everywhere. Whether it is pressure to conform to a group norm or pressure to act, peer pressure is something everybody has to deal with at some time in his or her life.
As Teenagers become more independent, their peers naturally play a greater role in their lives. As school and other activities take them away from home, they begin to spend more time with their peers than they do with their parents and siblings.

It’s natural for Teenagers to identify with and compare themselves with their peers as they consider how they wish to be (or think they should be), or what they want to achieve. Teenagers are influenced by peers because they want to fit in, be like peers they admire, do what others are doing, or have what others have.

How do teenagers prepare to face peer pressure and win?

1) Know where you stand on key issues like sex, drugs and alcohol and do not allow anybody make you deviate from your position.

2) Never be afraid to speak up and let others know your boundaries. You may get a bit teased at first but most people respect the boundaries of others when they know what they are.

3) Think of yourself as a leader and always act accordingly. The more you see yourself in a leadership role, the more comfortable you will feel asserting your own opinions and feelings.

Some people may not like it when you go against the group but doing the right thing is rewarding. Peer Pressure only works if you let it, if you refuse to let it intimidate you, it loses its power. The secret is to be assertive without preachy or self righteous. Stand your ground and remember, PEER PRESSURE CAN ONLY WIN IF YOU LET IT.

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26 Responses to “TEENAGERS – PEER PRESSURE”

iretiolu akoni said on Friday, June 11, 2010, 19:10

Hi chaz b, u have a wnderful pgrogramme going n believe me u've toched quiet alot of lifes, pls keep the flag flying! the Lord is your strengh.
sayde said on Saturday, June 12, 2010, 3:45

Hi Chaz B, yes i agree with the last comment, Please watch it……………….
Ladeay said on Monday, June 14, 2010, 7:39

Hi Chaz B, u r doing a great work. May God continue to renew ur strength.
I just wanna say dat people should stop blaming the parent so much cos they are just instrument of bringing u into the world.Everyone needs someone to blame for their misfortune but they dont think they are at fault. Every teen needs to develop their minds and strength. Every Parent wants to be there for their kids but av too much to handle. The teens should be wise in their decisions
Linda said on Monday, June 14, 2010, 12:11

A love of God’s Word is vital to successfully transferring faith from one generation to the next. Teens need to develop a relationship with Christ that is based not on rules but a deep love of Jesus.
Chris said on Thursday, June 24, 2010, 22:36

Parents have a great role to play with respect to peer pressure of their children/ wards. Parents should get very close to their children and be friends to them. Some parents are too harsh while some are too careless. I have three daughters aged 9, 7 and 5. My wife has started talking to them about menstration when the eldest one started feelinf pain on her breast and we observed she has started growing breast.

My plan is to tell them when they are 10 years about relationship, sex and marriage so that they dont allow pressure to affect. When they need anything, they ask from us the parents. Ifn they are given anything outside, even if we are not home for the weekend, they don't touch it until we return. When they have the value of contentment, it is likely that they would fall under peer pressure. Chaz B, you are doing a great job. I will advice that you take people's criticism in good faith for it will bring the best out of you
tina said on Friday, June 25, 2010, 10:23

I think at 10yrs, it is too last to start telling them about relationship, because they might have fall victim by then. Can you imagine that my neighbor house boy, has already been sleeping with his master daughter at 8yrs until they were caught, he(master) sent the houseboy away and sent the daughter the village.

Children of nowadays are very smart they no things when you were at their age you don't even no about.
anonimous said on Friday, July 2, 2010, 14:31

goodday i am divocy but each time she call me i stiil ve a felling for her but left my house when i was no body for the past three years wat do i do
tobenna2002 said on Saturday, July 3, 2010, 18:34

I think you are taking over the air waves Chaz!! Many atimes i really wished i could say one or two things while you are on air but Alas! I think parents have a great role to play in the development of children. Parents must necessarily monitor their wards through constant interaction to ensure that these gifts that the Almighty God has blessed them are properly groomed.
The home is a primary institution in society building. Do not force the truth on the child as it is the case, when parents go by “don’t do this or that” but by carefully teaching a child the truth. The bible says teach a child the way he should go and when he grows up he will never depart from it. In todays fast changing world it is quite difficult to check what the child is exposed to especially in a home where both parents are working and have let the child or children to the mercy of the school teacher! the television and the internet! But i tell you Chaz, if a child finds out the truth quite early and with constant interaction with parents, this child begings to choose his or her peers based on very visible qualities.
KBBY said on Wednesday, July 21, 2010, 11:15

I agree with you..but what would u say about a family that both parents are bankers and at 14 she was already in the university.how do you want to monitor such a girl and what time do have to pay her a visit to such a child? I think that part in the Bible that says “train up a child in the he should go” is just so perfect.
veralyn said on Monday, August 2, 2010, 22:14

Hi Chaz B you are doing a great job.Lots of lifes have been touched through your show mine inclusive, keep up the good work and God bless.
wilson obiora said on Tuesday, August 3, 2010, 12:14

hi chaz.b i was so touched by the programme yesterday God bless you, i wish all teenagers can hear what you are saying and hear other peoples struggles and pain and know that thier own is not any worse.
rina said on Tuesday, August 3, 2010, 13:50

Chaz, only God can intervene in our teenagers life. A lot is happening….
hendrix said on Thursday, August 5, 2010, 11:17

chaze b,let me start by saying i am missing out in your programe,i have relocate to abuja thank God for this miracle of new job,i have call deola to tell the management of inspiration fm to come and take the floor at abuja,you are(inspiration) second to none if you dont know this. how ever i want to thank u for the word s that come out of you every monday,wednesdsay and fridy they are powerfu,comforting,compelling they are strenght,they are hope.you once talk to me on fone wen i sent you a distress text and fasted with me that was life expiriece.God has answer the prayer and fasting thank you.when you need help it will not be far from you.i miss lagos bcos u are there
Alakija M Adelaja said on Monday, August 9, 2010, 10:08

Chaaaazzzz, you are a timely intervention in a present situation in this very generation, do you know what you are doing to this generation? You are actually doing according to the word of the Lord "OCCUPY TILL I COME". My prayer for you is this you will hit the mark, you will not loose focus, you will not fall by the wayside and you will not loose your reward in Jesus' name, GOD is your rewarder. Amen.
Jay said on Tuesday, August 10, 2010, 19:04

Hi Chaz B, I am currently on holiday in the UK and I am missing your program right now. I thank God who has given you this vision. Thhe issues discussed ae very sensitive and vital to human existence. You are doing a good work. Kepp it up.
Nnenna said on Wednesday, August 11, 2010, 10:35

Hi Chaz, this teen issue is timely for such a time as this. We all went through peer pressure, and for me, what really helped was the affirmation i got from home. Especially from dad. He walked me through the adolescent years and made me feel like i was the most beautiful girl in the world. I acquired that "can do" mindset from him and that helped in keeping me focused, helping me to do first things first i.e. school, work. I encourage the teens to move close to mom and dad, and be transparent, so that even when they make mistakes, the correction would come in love. Keep up the good work Chaz-B, the Lord Himself will shield and reward you.
uche said on Thursday, August 12, 2010, 14:24

Hi Chaz B. I really thank God for using u to touch lives thru ur programme (sharin life issues). The Lord that started wit u will not leave u half way but will lead u to where He ios taking u. Chaz B, i would like u to do a programme on singles who are not married, talking about the you between 22 – 28 years, because i'm sure we have issues affecting us too. U have done on teenagers, married people and more but none on single ladies and guys.
Observer said on Tuesday, August 17, 2010, 21:36

I think than Nwana and Chaz B is not a good combo
Nwana i love gal but sharing life issues is not ur kinda thing
Tomi said on Tuesday, August 17, 2010, 23:46

hi chaz b! you are a blessing to this generation and most appreciated. keep up the good work. remember the lady that called to wish her cousin in the hospital a happy bthday? thank God she's out. her right leg had to be amputated. that was done before i called u. her healing thereafter was remarkable. bless u.
esta said on Thursday, August 19, 2010, 7:54

hi chaz b,i think u are doing a great work and as a reporter u are going to receive some very annoying callers online. my advise is that u be calm and try not to allow it to get to u. do not spoil ur good work by adopting a mocking tone on air.
Ola Bee said on Thursday, September 2, 2010, 15:45

Gud job cahz B
ibikunle said on Saturday, September 4, 2010, 13:10

Chaz B, Ur show is so wonderful that my radio is on default. u av touched so many lives in just a little time. GOD Bless the entire crew. Keep the good work.
cecil said on Monday, November 15, 2010, 15:11

Hi Chaz B ,u are really doing a good job. Parents should learn to be close to their children and not force them but patiently rebuke them. GOD BLESS.
Kunle said on Tuesday, February 8, 2011, 15:08

Bless the womb that brought you forth.Ure making impact sir and may God sustain it!
martins said on Saturday, August 20, 2011, 14:43

you are bless sir
KEM said on Thursday, November 17, 2011, 16:03

`Hi Chaz-B, I dont really have so much to say but pray that GOD ALMIGHTY will continue to encourage you.