Comments on: DIVORCE

By: wini

wini — Tue, 18 Jan 2011 16:38:10 +0000

Hi, in response to Chris, please if the moda of the girl is in support of the marriage, let her go ahead as long as: 1. she has know whom she's getting married which is wht really counts 2. they both love each oda. she has her life 2 live nt her uncle living for her. most importantly prayer is the key.

By: Ehi

Ehi — Thu, 23 Sep 2010 13:16:12 +0000

Been waiting on Chaz B's comment on this as i also suffer the same plight.

By: Damilola Adeyinka

Damilola Adeyinka — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 13:44:36 +0000

Marriage is not a bed of roses,there will definitely be trying times for every home,times when you start to question the choices you've made.In times like this you need the help of God and good counsel.It however does not have to be a bush of thorns either.So many people stay in marriages for the sake of the children,eventually, this children will grow up and go on with their lives..what will you do then.I say NO TO A LOVELESS MARRIAGE.You shouldn't have to endure marriage all the days of your life.

By: Obi

Obi — Thu, 02 Sep 2010 09:24:49 +0000

Chaz B, Thank you for the good work. i am currently burning inside now. i have been married for eight years now with 3 kids. i currently stumbled on some email where i found out that she has been cheating on me with another married man. this had been going on for 4 months. i confronted her and she confessed and begged for forgiveness. i am confused, i LOVE this woman with all my heart. i am very grounded in God and have been at a cross road. infidelity is the only thing written in the book of God for divorce. pls help

By: BiBi

BiBi — Wed, 11 Aug 2010 14:59:47 +0000

Marriages are breaking up because there is competition in marriage. Concerning marriage, God tells us via the bible that Men love your wives as Christ loves the church and gave himself for her , wives submit to your husbands.

To me, this means that men should love their wives unconditionally, irrespective of what she does or who she is, bearing in mind that Christ loves us first, while we are yet sinners, He died for us. Christ didn't say we should love him first, then he will die for us, rather He gave up Himself for us even in our sins.

That simply tells us that the woman doesn't need to be "perfect" before the man can love. I tell you, there is no woman who is loved, that will not be submissive. Men continue to show love, even if she doesn't appear that she is submitting now, with time, she will realize herself. Any man who loves God will love his wife in obedience to His commandment.

For the women, you are asked to submit. The submission should be total, irrespective of whether the man loves you or not. See it as you are submitting to God, because it's a commandment from God. submitting to the man doesn't make you a fool but just like the man, you are obeying God.

For some women, they are DGMs, EDs etc in their offices as such, they are not able to draw the line between the office and the home front. Men don't need competitors, they need partner. No matter highly placed the woman is, the man is still the head and he expects submission from his wife.

No matter how tough a man is, if he has a submissive wife, over the time, he will begin to love.

if both parties can bear these in mind, a lot more marriages will work.

Chaz B, keep up the good work, God bless U.

By: owoloye Raphael

owoloye Raphael — Wed, 11 Aug 2010 06:48:25 +0000

Hello Temtation,
I read your comment and am really moved by your level of sincerity .I do understand when a Man loves something so much yet you can just lay your hand on it again, especially when it use to be yours. I can feel your reminiscence for your former love, the holding of hands , the first kisses , when the baby arrives etc. But, Man the truth now is that you belong to another person now, you must learn to let the past be , she is an History in your life now, don't allow your dog to go back to his vomit . Am very sure you still love your present wife , hence you wouldn't have married her. Please grow up and face the fact that you can never be with her again and again , anything causing you guyz to meet again is called DISASTER , INFIDEL , UNFAITHFULNESS AND ADULTERY . Am very sure you don't want to be called an ADULTERER . Temtation , please believe me ,is better you focus on your PRESENT now than allowing your PAST to destroy your FUTURE.

I pray for you for strength to face this battle. God help you my brother.

Raphael

By: Goodness

Goodness — Sun, 08 Aug 2010 23:37:08 +0000

Truth is that people should try to understand first – what marriage is all about. For heaven sake the word says that the man shall leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife and the two become one. No where in all the verses on marriage was children mentioned except only as a bonus. in other words children are only God's 'jara' to a married couple. Never the reason for the marriage. So where one has done all that there is humanly possible, and it is not working, for goodness sake take a walk!!!!! I guess your children would be better off growing up and knowing they have a mother (or father) alive and well somewhere, than to end up orphaned. Rather than stay and die slowly in one hell called marriage, simply quit and add years to your life, period.

By: sarah

sarah — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 16:34:24 +0000

chaz b God bless u for what u are doing, u are really doing a good job.
pls help us tell the parent. they do what pleases them without thinking of what happen to the children. the children are suffering emotionally.
they should consider the children before makind such decision.

By: tobenna2002

tobenna2002 — Sat, 03 Jul 2010 18:07:03 +0000

This topic is not as clear cut as most people think…’it’s not what one sits,deliberate on and jumps up and says by god this is the solution…,it is a gradual feeling which builds up with one feeling am not understood no one knows what am going through, am all alone in this afterall am the one wearing the shoe etc. and without any proper let out most times Divorce is always the easy way out.People should note that once in a reltionship people change so does situation or circumstances, do you just throw in the towel and say i have done my best!! Did the Word not say in this life we will have tribulation,so is marriage not in this world? did it not further say but be of good cheer for i have overcomed for YOU..if we have prayed all we can, fasted etc it is time to try praising HIM..He is the one that can salvage ALL situation ‘divorce’ is not a solution no matter how tempting it may be please..

By: Blessing

Blessing — Fri, 25 Jun 2010 11:02:44 +0000

You are doing a great job chaz B, i love your show, i don't miss it.
I have been listening 2 ur show for 3mths now, & am greatly blessed, but i still ve a problem which has gone away after doing all am suppose to do. Am a christian, am in my early 30s, i fell in love wit a guy that am 2yrs older than, everything was fine till last yr(after 3yrs of relationship)wen he got a job at the same he want to go back to school, he told me i can't wait for him that he still loves me and he want to move on wit my life, that i should get married and settle down. I ve prayed, fasted just 2 let go of him, is not just working. I need to move on, i don't want to get married to someone i don't love so that my marriage wil not be in crises.
The truth is that i still love my ex, i truly do love him, it is affecting me badly. I need help pls……