Good Evening. I really like listening to your shows, they are controversial and conversation provoking, which makes them very engaging and interesting.

To the topic on loving your enemies, the role is the reverse with my case.

I have been in love with this guy for 5 years now. We started out being in a relationship and he broke it off with me to be with his childhood friend who he has proposed to marry in less than 5 weeks.

Although the relationship ended technically, we never stopped seeing each other. We talk everyday and we exchange visits. we sleep over during the week and technically nothing changed except for the fact that we are more intimate.

His fiancé knows about me and she suspects that there is more to what he says going on between us and has all the while kept her suspicion under check.

I love him and although it is hard to let him go i prayed to God for strength and ended the physical aspect of our relationship. Now we both are trying to suppress the feelings we have towards each other. All i can say exists is emotional betrayal.

I pray for her and try to be her friend so that i could truly let go of how i feel about him and she can have my allegiance. I have done things to be close to her and win her friendship cos that is the only way i will look less at the guy we care about differently. My philosophy is I wouldn't mess around with a girlfriend's guy.

Am trying to love her and I have began to understand her pain and her frustration. It is not easy but is doing this for the sake of tomorrow. I know we will always meet at social gatherings; I do not want to feel guilty or look over my shoulder any longer. This saga has to end.

I am the enemy in this picture and I m trying to mend my ways but lately, his fiancé has gone mad and insecure about our relationship. She is hearing a lot of things that he covered all these years about us from other sources and it is driving her insane. She was a quiet and sweet lady but lately he complains about how hot tempered she gets over matters that concern me.

He doesn't care how she feels or takes it cos after all, he is marrying her, what else does she wants from him…? In his words, she has everything to loose, we both have nothing to loose. He told her point blank that he is not willing to let go of our friendship and she should deal with it.

What she doesn't understand is that every time she accuses him though he is innocent now, it forces him to come to me and act out what she so accuses. He ends up yearning my company more and more. Although we are no longer physically intimate His care and fondness for me increases while he is making steps to go into a marriage he claims he doesn't plan on being faithful. He respects me more than he does her these days cos in his words i keep my cool and act matured when his fiancé is acting childlike and he admires this strength in me. I don't particularly feel good about this statement because the role can be the reverse, any woman will go crazy jealous and be protective if they were in her shoes.

Am sharing this story because loving your enemies pays. For one it will stop you from going crazy and may drive them crazy until you win them over. it is a secret to life health insurance in terms of peace of mind, which helps you to stay healthy and happy. Loving your enemies guarantees a win-win scenario. And that is the best win any one can have.

I also want women to understand why nagging their unfaithful men over other women is not wise; you have him, so keep him well and he will not stray and even if he does, he will still come home to you at night. Turn to God and ask for wisdom and strength-this always works. Be patient and one day he will stop messing around and focus on you.
Praying for the other women to find their own so that they can move on is another angle. Nothing is a 100% physical, lets not approach life’s issues with human wisdom (the end is destruction) but God’s wisdom.

It will be nice if this story was shared on are to help others in this kind of situation. It can lead to healing for a lot of hearts.

Have a beautiful month good people.