Introduction:  When we say Enemies, who do we call Enemies and when do people becomes our Enemies?

Matthew 5:44. That text tells us to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us.
Luke 6:27-29 (King James Version) “But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you.
In real life many of us have people we consider enemies. Sure, you probably don’t shoot your enemy or throw them out a window or anything like that, like you might see in an action movie. I’m sure some of us have done something mean to an enemy though or at least had bad thoughts about them. Is it right? Is it wrong?

We often hear people talking about getting even with their enemies, but that is not the Christian way. The book of Proverbs tells us the Christian way, “If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he is thirsty give him water to drink. For so you will heap coals of fire on his head and the Lord will reward you.” The Christian way is to offer a hand of friendship to everyone, even your enemies. Leave the judgment or anything that needs to be avenged to God.

What if you forgive your enemy and he continues to do you wrong? When is it ok to finally retaliate? In the book of Matthew Peter asks Jesus the same thing. Peter asks, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” Peter thought that forgiving someone seven times was pretty generous but Jesus replied by saying, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.” Jesus doesn’t literally mean that somebody gets exactly 490 chances for forgiveness, and then you stop. What Jesus is trying to say is that you give them how ever many chances it takes.

Who is the Enemy ?: a person who feels hatred for, fosters harmful designs against, or engages in antagonistic activities against another (an adversary or opponent).

Rom 12:19-21
19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
20 Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.
21 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.

Enemies from Relationships gone sour !!

This is a common scenario in many broken relationships. A man or a lady once cherished all of a sudden turns out to be your worst nightmare, someone you don’t want to come in contact with, talkless of having anything to do with. We all wonder why lovers suddenly become enemies. According to research, there has been many reasons responsible for these acts;
 break-ups, irresponsive/irresponsible partner, and many more. Sharinglifeissue is interested in finding out more about why most lovers suddenly hate themselves. Your comments are welcome and of high priority to us as it provides leads to our findings.

Some phone logs;

Tope: I was in a relationship with this guy for 8 years, without giving me any signs or warnings, he got married to another lady. I found out about this later, it was a very great shock to me when i heard but i have gotten over it now. If you were to be in my shoes, what would you do and how will you feel about the guy?

Anon: It was a nice relationship until i got pregnant for this guy, he left me and got married to another lady. He threatened me to get rid of the pregnancy which i refused, he would come to my office and insult me over the pregnancy both him and his newly wedded wife. As if that was not enough, when i was put to bed, i lost the baby just some few minutes after i had him, still this guy wouldnt let me be, he kept calling that he doesnt care what i have been through that he is going to make life miserable for me. Whatever i had done to him to deserve such treatments from him, i donot know, cos as we speak, he is still on my giving me probs.

Anon(2): I got pregnant for this man who was meant to be my husband, but after he got the news of the pregnancy, he disappeared and i never heard from him, i developed so much hatred for him. When i had my baby, she looked so much like her dad and i transfered the hatred to my baby cos the more i look at her, the more i remmebered how bad i have been treated by her dad. But lately, my baby dad called and apologised for his wrongs, he told me he is married to another lady with kids. But keeps calling and asking for my forgiveness, it has been hell for me, and this man coming back into my life is like re-opening the scar he’d left in my heart.

  Relationships appear to be more complicated than we think and there are lots of things involved, so care must be taken when going into one.  There is a thin line between Love & Hate, and when that line is crossed, you never can tell what the outcome would be.

******* Guard your heart with all diligence for out of it flows the issues of Life ******