How Should We Deal With Our Enemies ??

Monday, January 25, 2010, 19:27

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Introduction: When we say Enemies, who do we call Enemies and when do people becomes our Enemies?

Matthew 5:44. That text tells us to love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us.
Luke 6:27-29 (King James Version) “But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you.
In real life many of us have people we consider enemies. Sure, you probably don’t shoot your enemy or throw them out a window or anything like that, like you might see in an action movie. I’m sure some of us have done something mean to an enemy though or at least had bad thoughts about them. Is it right? Is it wrong?

We often hear people talking about getting even with their enemies, but that is not the Christian way. The book of Proverbs tells us the Christian way, “If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he is thirsty give him water to drink. For so you will heap coals of fire on his head and the Lord will reward you.” The Christian way is to offer a hand of friendship to everyone, even your enemies. Leave the judgment or anything that needs to be avenged to God.

What if you forgive your enemy and he continues to do you wrong? When is it ok to finally retaliate? In the book of Matthew Peter asks Jesus the same thing. Peter asks, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” Peter thought that forgiving someone seven times was pretty generous but Jesus replied by saying, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.” Jesus doesn’t literally mean that somebody gets exactly 490 chances for forgiveness, and then you stop. What Jesus is trying to say is that you give them how ever many chances it takes.

Who is the Enemy ?: a person who feels hatred for, fosters harmful designs against, or engages in antagonistic activities against another (an adversary or opponent).

Rom 12:19-21
19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
20 Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.
21 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.

Enemies from Relationships gone sour !!

This is a common scenario in many broken relationships. A man or a lady once cherished all of a sudden turns out to be your worst nightmare, someone you don’t want to come in contact with, talkless of having anything to do with. We all wonder why lovers suddenly become enemies. According to research, there has been many reasons responsible for these acts;
break-ups, irresponsive/irresponsible partner, and many more. Sharinglifeissue is interested in finding out more about why most lovers suddenly hate themselves. Your comments are welcome and of high priority to us as it provides leads to our findings.

Some phone logs;

Tope: I was in a relationship with this guy for 8 years, without giving me any signs or warnings, he got married to another lady. I found out about this later, it was a very great shock to me when i heard but i have gotten over it now. If you were to be in my shoes, what would you do and how will you feel about the guy?

Anon: It was a nice relationship until i got pregnant for this guy, he left me and got married to another lady. He threatened me to get rid of the pregnancy which i refused, he would come to my office and insult me over the pregnancy both him and his newly wedded wife. As if that was not enough, when i was put to bed, i lost the baby just some few minutes after i had him, still this guy wouldnt let me be, he kept calling that he doesnt care what i have been through that he is going to make life miserable for me. Whatever i had done to him to deserve such treatments from him, i donot know, cos as we speak, he is still on my giving me probs.

Anon(2): I got pregnant for this man who was meant to be my husband, but after he got the news of the pregnancy, he disappeared and i never heard from him, i developed so much hatred for him. When i had my baby, she looked so much like her dad and i transfered the hatred to my baby cos the more i look at her, the more i remmebered how bad i have been treated by her dad. But lately, my baby dad called and apologised for his wrongs, he told me he is married to another lady with kids. But keeps calling and asking for my forgiveness, it has been hell for me, and this man coming back into my life is like re-opening the scar he’d left in my heart.

Relationships appear to be more complicated than we think and there are lots of things involved, so care must be taken when going into one. There is a thin line between Love & Hate, and when that line is crossed, you never can tell what the outcome would be.

******* Guard your heart with all diligence for out of it flows the issues of Life ******

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16 Responses to “How Should We Deal With Our Enemies ??”

Esha said on Wednesday, January 27, 2010, 10:04

Hi Chaz. Morning. How should we deal with our enemies? Do we still need to ask? Daddy has already told us what to do. Love them, feed them, give them water. What is else can we do? iN these times we live in, i know its very hard, in fact extremely difficult. But it takes the Grace of GOD. Gosh its not easy. I can tell u that. But he has spoken. What can we do? Bye Chaz.
fsilas said on Wednesday, January 27, 2010, 10:46

Chaz B. Esha has said it all, Pray for them, Feed them, Show them Love which covereth all things. I think what God is saying there is that, As a christian u are not allow to have Enemies, we are to see every body as our brother and maybe because he or she has not gotten the knoledge of God that is why they still do us some evil.

since it is only those that do us evil we conseder as being our Enemy but we should also know that some thing we conseder evil that happen to us is God at work in our favour.
oluwayomi said on Thursday, January 28, 2010, 9:40

Hi Chaz B good work you guys are doing keep it up and on this week topic i think the best thing to do about our enemy is to love them no matter how bad they maybe for in doing that we will always be a step ahead of them and also win them at all time. for me i dont have external enemy b,cos immediately someone want to prove to be an enemy i try not disturb myself with that rather i show the person the best side of me amd the end i am a winner.
Ritamary said on Saturday, January 30, 2010, 14:39

what if the enemy is the one that took your name to a herbalist, to seek your destruction ? what if is that person that fly by nite (they change themselves to little rat, pussycat etc.) and they plan evil against you and your family? will you forgive them and pretend that nothing happens untill you are killed.
Funmilayo I B said on Tuesday, February 9, 2010, 14:38

Hi Chaz B. This is a very interesting discussion. i would not say there is no enemy, of course they are and real. This is what i do, i ignore influence or his action towards me. i focus on the done work of Christ. I meditate more on the work of Christ on the cross challenging those circumstance by the word
hendrix said on Monday, February 15, 2010, 13:56

my girl
all way want to be given she don't like to give out.i think she dont love me
hendrix said on Monday, February 15, 2010, 13:58

chaz b you are a good dude just keep the good work, is this your pix on the web sit if it is you an male angel
EWERE said on Friday, February 26, 2010, 18:53

how to deal with enemies ? simple, great them , give them cold water, love them and do all good things
they will be at peace with you.MOST OF ALL BE NICE TO ALL..
Bukola said on Monday, March 8, 2010, 19:37

Hello Chaz,

Good Evening. I really like listening to your shows, they are controversial and conversation provoking, which makes them very engaging and interesting.

To the topic on loving your enemies, the role is the reverse with my case.

I have been in love with this guy for 5 years now. We started out being in a relationship and he broke it off with me to be with his childhood friend who he has proposed to marry in less than 5 weeks.

Although the relationship ended technically, we never stopped seeing each other. We talk everyday and we exchange visits. we sleep over during the week and technically nothing changed except for the fact that we are more intimate.

His fiancé knows about me and she suspects that there is more to what he says going on between us and has all the while kept her suspicion under check.

I love him and although it is hard to let him go i prayed to God for strength and ended the physical aspect of our relationship. Now we both are trying to suppress the feelings we have towards each other. All i can say exists is emotional betrayal.

I pray for her and try to be her friend so that i could truly let go of how i feel about him and she can have my allegiance. I have done things to be close to her and win her friendship cos that is the only way i will look less at the guy we care about differently. My philosophy is I wouldn't mess around with a girlfriend's guy.

Am trying to love her and I have began to understand her pain and her frustration. It is not easy but is doing this for the sake of tomorrow. I know we will always meet at social gatherings; I do not want to feel guilty or look over my shoulder any longer. This saga has to end.

I am the enemy in this picture and I m trying to mend my ways but lately, his fiancé has gone mad and insecure about our relationship. She is hearing a lot of things that he covered all these years about us from other sources and it is driving her insane. She was a quiet and sweet lady but lately he complains about how hot tempered she gets over matters that concern me.

He doesn't care how she feels or takes it cos after all, he is marrying her, what else does she wants from him…? In his words, she has everything to loose, we both have nothing to loose. He told her point blank that he is not willing to let go of our friendship and she should deal with it.

What she doesn't understand is that every time she accuses him though he is innocent now, it forces him to come to me and act out what she so accuses. He ends up yearning my company more and more. Although we are no longer physically intimate His care and fondness for me increases while he is making steps to go into a marriage he claims he doesn't plan on being faithful. He respects me more than he does her these days cos in his words i keep my cool and act matured when his fiancé is acting childlike and he admires this strength in me. I don't particularly feel good about this statement because the role can be the reverse, any woman will go crazy jealous and be protective if they were in her shoes.

Am sharing this story because loving your enemies pays. For one it will stop you from going crazy and may drive them crazy until you win them over. it is a secret to life health insurance in terms of peace of mind, which helps you to stay healthy and happy. Loving your enemies guarantees a win-win scenario. And that is the best win any one can have.

I also want women to understand why nagging their unfaithful men over other women is not wise; you have him, so keep him well and he will not stray and even if he does, he will still come home to you at night. Turn to God and ask for wisdom and strength-this always works. Be patient and one day he will stop messing around and focus on you.
Praying for the other women to find their own so that they can move on is another angle. Nothing is a 100% physical, lets not approach life’s issues with human wisdom (the end is destruction) but God’s wisdom.

It will be nice if this story was shared on are to help others in this kind of situation. It can lead to healing for a lot of hearts.

Have a beautiful month good people.
Adebimpe folarin said on Friday, July 9, 2010, 19:38

How to deal with enemies? I think as God's children delete them 4rm the enemy 's list ..Live ur life with lots of luv,love ur neighbours like like urself as the bibble says…And leave every hater to the hands of THE LORD…When HE (GOD ) watches over u ,u av no fear.
irahmah said on Thursday, September 2, 2010, 18:27

hey chaz have listening to ur voice for years now,you are a good influence keep it up.Irahmah
Jude said on Tuesday, September 7, 2010, 0:49

Thanks Chaz b, i really love ur program, keep it up. keep it up. I really have a lot issues my brother.
Victoria Gbadamosi said on Thursday, September 30, 2010, 19:51

I wnat to joint the Counselors team, please how can i join
Victoria Gbadamosi said on Thursday, September 30, 2010, 19:52

I wnat to join the counseling team
akinwunmi shola said on Friday, October 15, 2010, 16:39

like ur programme but kind of confuse @times with d kind of songs u play. thot d songs dat should emanate 4rm a programme like urs should glorify God and remind people of Jesus' coming..its just an opinion. God bless u and keep u.
Edah Rume said on Saturday, October 23, 2010, 20:36

I love ur program on inspiration fm. I although i just started listening to but it empowering.