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Must We Get Married ? (more on marriage issues)
Everyone is in a hurry to get a partner to start a life with, but is it really necessary to get married? Funnily, a high preference is given to marriage at some certain ages in life and as a result of this, a lot of people tend to rush into marriages and not taking the time to know the person they are going into the marriage with better. Peer pressure is a contributing factor as well as some pre-marital and extra-marital affairs.
Fine, everyone has a right to their own opinion on marriage, no one is a model or standard for marriage. Marriage is a thing that comes with the mind. You can never enjoy your relationship if you are not psychological ready for it. Marriage is an institution ordained by God and the essence of marriage has been explained in the Bible, it explains, a man ( male/female) should find a partner if he cannot hold his body. Therefore, if you have control over your sexual urges, you might decide not to marry and vice versa.
Nnamdi (34 yrs old) was a very interesting contributor to tonight’s show, he pointly expressed his reasons for not settling down for marriage. He is single and he enjoys his bachelorhood and he is presently not interested in trading that for any marriage commitments. He expresses his stand on why people imposes marriage on themselves, to him, Life is fun and meant to be enjoyed and also, things must be done one thing after the other. He further says, anyone could say whatever they like about him, but his fact remains that, it is his life and he has the right to live it the way it pleases him.
We never really examine marriage if it’s something that’s for us. Instead we just assume it’s the natural next step and right and we fall right in line.
Do we get married because we have legitimate, real reasons, or do we do it just because that’s what society, and especially the church, tell us that we should do? If you get down to the heart of the matter, almost everything that one could do inside a marriage, could also be done outside of a marriage, whether in a committed partnership, or in some cases, just a “regular” relationship.
However, that’s a very worldly mindset to have, don’t you agree? God did create marriage. He created it in order that we might perpetuate a Godly legacy through our families and saw that the marriage would be the best means of coming to that end. He did create man and woman to be monogamous, despite what current events and common human behaviors might tell you. We know that a three stranded cord is not easily broken. When those three strands are composed of God, a man, and a woman, each committed to the other wholeheartedly, there is a bond, a covenant that is formed that cannot be broken. That bond is marriage.
Questions to ask yourself before getting involved !
Why do we want to get married?
What do we have in common?
Am i frank with my partner?
How is my partner as a person?
Do i hope to change him/her after marrige?
What purpose or fulfillment would it add to your life that you would not otherwise have?
What things do you feel can only be realized within the context of a marriage?
***** Guard Your Heart With All Diligence For Out Of It Flows The Issues Of Life*****
*******HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE*******
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chigozie said on Thursday, December 31, 2009, 6:38
Good morning Chaz B, please i would like to know the six reasons you highlighted on Radio why men delay in getting married. i was listening your show on my way home but could not get all.
may God almighty continue to Bless you for the good work you are doing for the people of Lagosa.Let me be the first to wish you Happy new year.
Esha said on Thursday, December 31, 2009, 9:24
Hi Chaz, morning. i did not have the opportunity to listen to ur show yesterday. But i just read through now and honestly i agree with what u said. GOD created marriage and he said it again in his word that a man will leave his father and mother and become ‘one’ with his wife. Paul went on to stress that fact when he said that if a man cannot hold his body it is better for him to get married. I mean, come on, no man in these times that we live in can honestly say that he does not lust after women and can actually do up to 4 (no, too much)….1 month without touching a woman. Except he has been castrated. Some people might feel it is not a must but our creator ordained it for man to marry. At a point in time, if the man is not yet married, he begins to feel incomplete in a way. As if something is missing and yes……something IS missing. The wife. i know it is quite hard to find that person one needs because this is the reality that we live in. But it is not impossible. So my own opinion is Yes, we do need to get married. Talking about marriage, Chaz B, when is urs? lol. I wish u better days in 2010. And u are really doing a beautiful job. Keep it up.
fsilas said on Monday, January 4, 2010, 10:29
Hi Chaz B, this is Silas. this is a very interesting topic. Some Marriages are enviable while some are not. though not married, but have friend, relatives and Mentors that are married. it is actualy not a must if u can do without fornication but bacause it is almost imposible and it is an institution establish by God himself for mankind, therefore, if a man is fortunate to find a wife and not a woman then he has find a favour from God according to the Bible. then you will see marriage as a must because it will definately make u and if u are unfortunate to find a woman then marriage becomes hell and worth not going into. But Chaz B, i have a big respect for the maraige institution and am looking forward to finding my missing Rib.
Chibuzor 'Mac said on Monday, January 4, 2010, 12:42
hello Chaz B, gud day. Am Chibuzor 'Mac. following the biblical injunction, marriage is not a do or die affair. one shouldn't be forced into it, either by societal, family or personal induced pressures. Marriage IS meant only for those singles that sincerely understand that they can't be alone and are desirous to CLEAVE (as an intrasitive verb) to somebody of LIKE MIND OR INTEREST. It is interestingly to note that, if a man choses to remain single, due to his personal decision(with regards to Nnamdi's case), he's supposedly expected NOT to have any 'entanglement' with the opposite sex. He can'nt eat his cake and still expect it to be with him at the same time. l as a person can'nt decide to remain single but still enjoy romantic moment with the opposite sex. However, this is only for those that believe on biblical injunctions as x-rayed by Apostle Paul.
thank you