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Romantic Affairs In The Workplace
Introduction: Romance in the workplace is on the rise. A married Man/Woman is having an adulterous relationship
with a co-worker. Worse, the Man/Woman is openly hugging and kissing this co-worker, whom he supervises and who directly reports to him/her.
The increase in workplace romance is not surprising. Several factors of the modern economy have apparently contributed to it. More women are in the workplace than ever. Businesses are demanding longer work hours, resulting in a decline in free time for employees. People working together tend to have similar backgrounds, talents, and goals. And, these days the workplace is a lot safer place to meet someone than a pub or a club house.
Moreover, there are advantages and disadvantages to these act and some of these are discussed below;
Perhaps the biggest advantage is time efficiency, an important factor for most professionals. During an office romance, you don’t have to spend an odd amount of hours after work searching for and wooing the object of your desire. Since you are in an office filled with attractive women, you can start right there and spend your office time both working and romancing. You won’t even have to spend time visiting her at home or picking her up at her place of work since she is right there.
Another advantage is that you don’t have to make much effort to know what kind of person she’s like since you probably already know all about her from spending time with her at work. This is a big advantage that can save guys a lot of major headaches.
The third advantage is a practical one: you can carpool to and from work. You get to sleep together at night and then cut down on your gas expenses by driving together to work.
On the negative side, dating someone from work means that you spend an extraordinary amount of time together, and that’
s not an ideal situation for most men. That can be worse than being in a bad marriage. Most men and even some women cherish their time alone to pursue other interests, hang out with friends and the like.
If you are dating a subordinate, you may be accused of favoritism if she gets a promotion or bonus, and this may affect the morale of the entire office.
On the other hand, if she performs badly at work, the prospect of having to fire your girlfriend can be daunting. You may even leave yourself open to accusations of sexual harassment after your breakup.
If the roles are reversed and you are dating your boss, she may be accused of favoritism as a result of your career advancement. Also, how would you feel if your girlfriend actually had to fire you from work? And if things don’t work out between the two of you, you could actually get fired after the breakup.
If you are dating a colleague, things like competition and office politics can cast an ugly shadow over your relationship. It m
ay even affect the way you perform your professional duties.
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LINDA said on Tuesday, December 8, 2009, 6:08
Psalms 1 says it all.
Basically, it is the LIFE STYLE. Your life style can BLESS you or DESTROY you. "There is a way which seemeth right unto a man (woman), but the end thereof are the ways of death". Proverbs 14:12.
napoleon said on Tuesday, December 8, 2009, 6:38
this issue affects productivity at work, I dont encourage affairs in the office. Even married couples shouldn work in the same place, it makes the work boring for them, and productivity would be lowered by a fraction.. And the ending is not always good at all..sleeping with your boss
princesslizzy said on Tuesday, December 8, 2009, 8:36
This is coming at the right time in so many of us lives, l have a friend that tried that and she never find it funny at all, it all started like joke, calling each other on intercom, going for lunch, invitation to a party and b4 u know it he invited her to his house and because the fantasy was there all along, they had sex and that was the begining, even sometimes doing it in the office, which we her friends frowned against but she kept on until she saw the guy doing the same to many girls, before her eyes opened, and she backed out to worsen it all the guy is married with kids,she as woman also just got married, she will tell her husband lies that they have work on saturday since is a financial company. No other word to quantify it, it is bad,ladies be ware, you do not need to sleep with any man in order to get your promotion, promotion comes from no one but from God, like what the caller said yesterday God sent people into your life to be a stone or bread, He is the one to know when the stone is to be turned to a bread.
Jollyade said on Tuesday, December 8, 2009, 9:52
this is coming in at the right time fine we spent almost all time in the office but it does nt warrant us dating our suprior or Boss,ladies be ware this is common with our so called married men believing that they have cash flow with or think they have power most men complain abt their wives in other to get that girl but we must always be carefull abt this, it real and if you are into it pls for God’s sake deciet from it,it harmfull and bad.God hate and dislike it.
Chaz B God will continue to help and keep u.
maggiee said on Tuesday, December 8, 2009, 10:30
what can i say? most beautiful women are victims of such acts. sometimes it is a deliberate act and at other times, young women are forced into dating their bosses. the best bet would be to resign but even at that, it’s a difficult descision to make cos really there are no jobs out there. i sincerely wish married men would respect there marriage commitments and also to the fake christian married men parrading themselves as soul mentors, they should desist from this treacherous act of deceiving young ladies that they are people they can trust and then they later abuse these young women into smooching their private parts and sleeping with them. God will judge all the men out there leaving a false life inthe name of bro this and bro that. You can deceive men but you can’t deceive God.
Onyinye said on Tuesday, December 8, 2009, 13:34
I read a book sometime ago and i got a line from it. "You dont shit where you eat". Having an affair with a colleague is just not it cuz it keeps one distracted. Each morning you wake up thinking of how 2 look good. Your work suffers in the long run. May God help us.
zikman said on Tuesday, December 8, 2009, 19:08
Chaz B may God almighty continue to keep you and your team at inspiration Fm, office dating have been with us for a while, Chaz B the quest for materialism, job security and the fear of the unknown has made a lot of people to mortage their future and to do any thing just to remain employed, and they economic situation has made alot of people to become slaves to their passions, May God HELP us,
diamond said on Tuesday, December 8, 2009, 19:38
workplace romance…not cool at all. i think it kind of speaks low of a person especially wen u re in it for the wrong reasons.
diamond said on Tuesday, December 8, 2009, 19:40
and Chaz may God bless u and Deola.
Cejay said on Wednesday, December 9, 2009, 12:49
Only 2 weeks away from Lagos and this site has improved this much.Wow! i'm so impressed.Thumbs up peeps.
Mano said on Wednesday, December 9, 2009, 13:17
I sincerely think most ladies are into this dirty act simply b'cos they are not contented and the quest for material things they get. As for the man that do it, they are not confident of themselves as such, otherwise they can reach out any woman of their choice outside the office. Wonderful job u are doing out there Chaz B.
Ariel said on Wednesday, December 9, 2009, 17:23
I know it can end in marriage if properly managed by both parties. I actually know about 2 couples who it favoured. On the flip side, if not properly managed, it can affect one or both parties work and lead to bad blood between them. If people are in it for the wrong reasons, it will definitely backfire.
Lanre said on Wednesday, December 9, 2009, 22:59
Surprised the culprits did not call on radio today [Dec. 9]. The guys seems to be 'proud' of it. Go to the ministries/oil coys/ local govts etc. Almost all the single ladies are involved. The moral is that all the perpetrators end burning their fingers.
God will deliver them all or else the punishment awaits!!!!!!
taiwo ajiga said on Thursday, December 10, 2009, 7:31
Thank God am out of it since January but is not eaasy ooooo.i think if there both single there can carry on in masurity mindset.CHAZ B GOD IS UR STRENGHT
Danamist said on Thursday, December 10, 2009, 9:11
Office romance with a married man/woman is not ideal, because you tend to loose your self worth, your colleaque will have a filled day discussing behind your back things that are true and those that are not true. You become a laughing stock of the whole organisation. Worst if the management get to know then you end up loosing your job like Solomon that called in yesterday. You become a prey of the other workers in the work place because if you are promoted even if you deserve the promotion they will think you got the promotion because of the bottom power you have. So please lets be beware.
shina said on Thursday, December 10, 2009, 11:27
a close friend of mine dated a lady he had helped secured an appointment in the same bank he works. the last two, three years now things haven't up fine for the two. the lady has been double dating and has come to the knowledge of my friend. he loves the lady and has been founding it not easy to let go even though he appears to be in control of some sort. the whole thing became so hot for him because he sees the lady almost every minute as they both work in the same place. he wish he could do away with her and move on with life but seeing her every now and then keeps making it difficult.
floata said on Thursday, December 10, 2009, 13:22
Office romance is a no-no for me, it is not ideal. I had the experience during the service year, was dating my boss and trust me, you really don't want to listen to the details because it was not juicy at all.
Lizzy said on Thursday, December 10, 2009, 13:57
I am really learning here.
Femi said on Friday, December 11, 2009, 7:52
Office Romance is not ideal, its disturb both physical and spiritual. And there is harvest for it.
angie said on Friday, December 11, 2009, 12:49
if they are both single, well i dont see anthing wrong in it, but be carefull cos if it doesnt end well, ahahaha u got hate your self. i know of someone ,they are married now, and very happy.
B.B said on Wednesday, December 16, 2009, 11:24
I dont know why ladies engage in such thing.My husband is having affairs with his office front desk and when i discover it was hell. A marriage of just 3month almost destroy,just because of that.But i just have to let go and tell the lady in question to stay off from my husband and my husband too to guilde is heart.
B.B said on Wednesday, December 16, 2009, 11:26
I dont know why ladies engage in such thing.My husband is having affairs with his office front desk and when i discover it was hell. A marriage of just 3month almost destroy,just because of that.But i just have to let go and tell the lady in question to stay off from my husband and my husband too to guard is heart.
Andy J said on Wednesday, December 16, 2009, 15:59
i was really involved in it, but it was God that brought me out, my wife saw a text sent by the lady and all hell was let loose. She nearly packed out the next day, but thank God she warned me to stay clear of the Lady. but my candid advise is guys stay clear of it, although it will be sweet from the beginning but when it get to a stage, the lady concerned will not care whether u are married and will be ready to do anything to keep u to herself. pls guys fleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee from the evil in front of u.
Jepherson said on Thursday, December 17, 2009, 14:16
What if you were forced into it? You had no option cos she is your Boss, you were afraid of loosing your Job. At first you tried to be fast and smart but no matter what you do, she see's a problem landing you with a lot of queries and warning letters and threatening to sack you indirectly. What are you to do…
mercy said on Friday, December 18, 2009, 14:34
its not ideal for singles,talkless of married couple,my brother it's not okay, it distract both parties and expecialy the ladies. chaz b keep up the gud work man, great is your reward in heaven. shallom
txfmphef said on Monday, January 4, 2010, 22:26
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O'B-A-A said on Friday, January 8, 2010, 22:03
To be franked it's not easy especially if the lady is very beautiful, even if the mind is not committed, the eyes will always connect.
I didn't know how have being escaping it, maybe because I always busy when I suppose to take them out due to the kind of job I do. OR should I say i have done enough before I got married, couple with the fact that my wife is also beautiful which always serve as benchmark for assessing other ladies.
MY ADVICE: Keep off it, it kills your respect. Mind what you tell ladies and sometime your body language, ladies have super interpretation.