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Homosexuality, Sexual Norms?

Monday, November 9, 2009, 22:18
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rongIntroduction: Homosexuality is the romantic or sexual attraction or behavior among members of the same sex, situationally or as an enduring disposition. The problem of homosexuality involves much more than simply a sexual act. Those caught up in this sin usually have entered the homosexual lifestyle to some degree. To better understand the circumstances of the homosexual person seeking help, we’ve divided homosexuality into four components: behavior, psychic response, identity and lifestyle.

Behavior: Often, it is assumed that all homosexual people engage in homosexual acts, but this is not always the case. Because of fears or strong religious convictions, some may refrain from sexual behavior, yet experience an intense battle with homosexual attractions.

Psychic Response: A brief definition of this term is, “sexual excitation (stimulation) caused by visual perception or fantasy speculation.” Psychic response is also what people refer to as a “homosexual orientation.” Though many people claim that they have experienced visual or sexual attraction for the same sex “as long as they can remember,” there is a progression in a person’s life that leads to a homosexual psychic response.

Identity: Some people enter into homosexuality through “identity”. These are people who may not have experienced sexual attraction for the same sex or have had any homosexual encounters. However, from an early age, they have felt they were “different” from other people.

Lifestyle: A homosexual may insist that he bears no responsibility for his identity, his psychic response or even his first sexual encounter, which may have been forced upon him. However, every homosexual person must bear the responsibility for his or her choice to enter the homosexual lifestyle.

Leviticus 18:22 – You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination.
Leviticus 20:13 – If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act; they shall surely be put to death. Their blood guiltiness is upon them.
Romans 1:26-27 – For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error.
I Corinthians 6:9 – Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.
I Timothy 1:8-11 – “But we know that the Law is good, if one uses it lawfully, realizing the fact that law is not made for a righteous person, but for those who are lawless and rebellious, for the ungodly and sinners, for the unholy and profane, for those who kill their fathers or mothers, for murderers and immoral men and homosexuals and kidnappers and liars and perjurers, and whatever else is contrary to sound teaching, according to the glorious gospel of the blessed God, with which I have been entrusted.”

Likely factors causing homosexual desires
If homosexual impulses are not inherited, what kinds of influences do cause strong homosexual desires? No one answer is acceptable to all researchers in the field. Important factors, however, seem to fall into four categories and these are;
1. Homosexual experience:
any homosexual experience in childhood, especially if it is a first sexual experience or with an adult
2. Family abnormality, including the following:
-a dominant, possessive, or rejecting mother
-an absent, distant, or rejecting father
-a parent with homosexual proclivities, particularly one who molests a child of the same sex
-a sibling with homosexual tendencies, particularly one who molests a brother or sister
-the lack of a religious home environment
-divorce, which often leads to sexual problems for both the children and the adults
-parents who model unconventional sex roles
-condoning homosexuality as a legitimate lifestyle– welcoming homosexuals into the family circle
3. Unusual sexual experience, particularly in early childhood:
-precocious or excessive masturbation
-exposure to pornography in childhood
-depersonalized sex (e.g., group sex)
4. Cultural influences:
-a visible and socially approved homosexual sub-culture that invites curiosity and encourages exploration
-pro-homosexual sex education
-openly homosexual authority figures, such as teacher
-societal and legal toleration of homosexual acts
-depictions of homosexuality as normal and/or desirable behavior

Likely factors causing homosexual desires

If homosexual impulses are not inherited, what kinds of influences do cause strong homosexual desires? No one answer is acceptable to all researchers in the field. Important factors, however, seem to fall into four categories and these are;

1. Homosexual experience:

any homosexual experience in childhood, especially if it is a first sexual experience or with an adult

2. Family abnormality:

-a dominant, possessive, or rejecting mother

-an absent, distant, or rejecting father

-a parent with homosexual proclivities, particularly one who molests a child of the same sex

-a sibling with homosexual tendencies, particularly one who molests a brother or sister

-the lack of a religious home environment

-divorce, which often leads to sexual problems for both the children and the adults

-parents who model unconventional sex roles

-condoning homosexuality as a legitimate lifestyle– welcoming homosexuals into the family circle

3. Unusual sexual experience, particularly in early childhood:

-precocious or excessive masturbation

-exposure to pornography in childhood

-depersonalized sex (e.g., group sex)

4. Cultural influences:

-a visible and socially approved homosexual sub-culture that invites curiosity and encourages exploration

-pro-homosexual sex education

-openly homosexual authority figures, such as teacher

-societal and legal toleration of homosexual acts

-depictions of homosexuality as normal and/or desirable behavior.

Can homosexuality be changed?

Certainly, many people have turned away from homosexuality – almost as many people call themselves “gay.”

Clearly the easier problem to eliminate is homosexual behavior. Just as many heterosexuals control their desires to engage in premarital or extramarital sex, so some with homosexual desires discipline themselves to abstain from homosexual contact.

One thing seems to stand out, associations are all-important. Anyone who wants to abstain from homosexual behavior should avoid the company of practicing homosexuals.

**** Guard your heart with all diligence for out of it flows the issues of life ****

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65 Responses to “Homosexuality, Sexual Norms?”

  1. Chike said on Tuesday, November 10, 2009, 0:26

    I had always looked forward to this Topic.I have been invloved in homosexuality for over 18yrs.Infact i just had sex with a 21yr guy now.I noticed at about age 5 that i was attarcated to the same and always wished to be around with guys.While in primary school,i hadnt the opportunity until in jss 1 when i mate a boy of my age.We started a romace till we wrote waec in 1995,while in the university between 1997 and 2002,i struggled with the feeling because i was a member of SUG and didnt want to be embarrassed if it was found out that i was bisexual.I didnt have a girl frined till after my nysc in 2003.I cant remember sleeping with a girl in the last 9yrs.I sleep with both cleaners in my office,good looking okada guys…. Infact most handsome guys who are desperate and very materialistic are my target and they always accept to sleep with me just to make money.

    I have a fiancee now,but i have not made love to her.I am not even sure if can be aroused by her.This is where i need help.I want to settle down with her next year,but how do i expalin to her that am not attracted to her sexually?

    Pls i need assistance…

    Thanks

  2. LINDA said on Tuesday, November 10, 2009, 7:04

    Chike, I suggest that you tell her the truth about your challenge. She will appreciate your sincerity. Please do not marry her on the foundation of lies. If she finds out from another source, it is not going to be funny at all. A marriage or relationship built on lies will not last. If she truly loves you, definately, she will be part of the solution.

    You will overcome it with prayers and have faith that God will deliver you. Also call 08139009000 for further assistance. Thank you.

  3. Danamist said on Tuesday, November 10, 2009, 8:52

    Despite the fact that you are the way you are, God still loves you and want to help you out of this situation. You should tell your girl the whole truth and seek out ways to either stop this and not wait until you are married and she finds out. She will probably thinks that you are not having sex with her now because you are God fearing and all that, I think this is the best time you need to tell her. Call Chaz B on this number 08139009000. God loves you.

  4. Autobot-Sam said on Tuesday, November 10, 2009, 10:56

    Dude..hope 4 you is slim…you are in too deep. Just leave the poor girl to find a more deserving partner…as you for…you need help…i pray God can hel p you.

  5. Ade said on Tuesday, November 10, 2009, 11:31

    I think this is an interesting topic, Almost fell into a trap in 1997. Was woed consistently by some guy for close to a year. He kept sending love cards and gifts to me, spend hours on phone, (thank God, no GSM then). He talks about how he loves me, can't sleep without thinking of me, can't concentrate in school, don't feel anything for girls but only me and so on. He shows up in my office to observe me work, but I never knew who he was. He insisted that he won't show is face to me until, I am very comfortable with him and start sharing similar feelings for him.

  6. Ade said on Tuesday, November 10, 2009, 11:31

    Guess he was trying to get me emotionally connected to him, but for the power of the Holy Spirit in me. I was scared he may ambush me, so I later insisted will not give my attention again until he reveals himself to me. He considers my affection for him not strong yet and feels I may not like him after seeing him. He later agreed to show self to me after about two weeks but alone in a public place. I met him with his Seesy friend guess he was his regular mate. They are both good looking. I had few chats with them and later excused myself for other important business. I never gave him audience thereafter and we lost contact till date. I can’t give up thinking about what would have happened if I had continued to see him. I think such people are sick and really need help and deliverance through prayers. But they have to open their hearts for the Holy Spirit to minister to them. I understand they have a community. As parents, we should be very keep close look at out children especially when they start receiving gifts and unusual affection from opposite sex. ……..we are in the last days……Ade

  7. MARIA AYO-ARIYO said on Tuesday, November 10, 2009, 12:46

    the word of God is so clear on the subject. all we have to do is pray that people involved should have the eyes of their understanding enlightened. i dont buy the genetic story cos if that is the case,then God will say its ok for us to do it and he would have created another adam for adam instead of eve..here are futher scriptures…………….DEUT 23:17,1ST CORN6:9….. SO CHAZ WE HAVE TO PRAY FOR THEM

  8. Autobot-Sam said on Tuesday, November 10, 2009, 13:33

    Chaz…I'm sorry BUT i can't play Mr Nice guy hear like the others. . . .Male Homo should all the Shot period….no circumventing on issues. . .PURE gay females can also come to the same fate…(Bisexual Females….well, they have hope)…thats final….4 crying out loud…being gay is AGAINST the Law in Nigeria. . .and i think it should come with the DEATH sentence globally. I'm seeing a gal who is bisexual…and i think its cool 'cos she brings here friend over every now and then and we have a "manage a trois". . . its no big deal….(i think its every guyz dream to have such an experience). . .if you can visit Calabar. . .you will be shocked to find out thats…its the norm of the day over there. . .80% of the females in that land sleep with both sexes comfortably. . .but you know the flip side. . .they hate straight up GAY folks…lol…

  9. christy said on Tuesday, November 10, 2009, 13:52

    God is still in the business of forgiving and healing right, i think we should pray for those who find themselves in this habit/act.
    Bible says with God ALL things are possible not some things but ALL meaning that if they focus on HIM for help definitely it is possible for come out of the habit. remember no man is a saint.

  10. buchi said on Tuesday, November 10, 2009, 14:03

    Chaz B, i never knew this Homosexual issue exist among commited church worker's in the house of God….
    there's this so called commited worker who i know very well and his married with three kids. commited so such devilish act with a boy of 16yrs old and right now that am talking to you, he's in police station.

  11. Mobby said on Tuesday, November 10, 2009, 14:29

    Really this is an intresting topic. It is a Spiritual matter and can be solved spiritually. Other categories of these kind of problem is Rape and Lesbianism.
    So people like Chike needs Total Deliverance. God will help them

  12. Onyx said on Tuesday, November 10, 2009, 16:58

    This is the spirit of the endtime, it existed before but was not this rampant so i plead with all that we should be prayerful; it started somehow and i know it can stop anyhow most importantly with JESUS CHRIST, it can stop. For those that are deep into it all i want to them to know is they can’t fight it alone (Chike my dear) you have a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on with CHAZ B, i can assure you of that, call him and talk to him and i also enjoin everybody in this chat room to please pray for all victims of circumstance that is why we are here together as brothers and sisters, and together we can win. Chaz B, may God bless and uphold you. We love you sir.

  13. SEUN said on Tuesday, November 10, 2009, 17:24

    Good work Chaz B and Adeola. I have always know people need help, the only person that can actual help them is God. this is the foundation, pls always let them know this.

    By the way how can I get the CDs on Parenting?

  14. Akin said on Tuesday, November 10, 2009, 21:11

    I honestly don't think Chike needs help. All you have to do is BE YOU and stay where your heart is and enjoy every moment of it.

  15. Deede said on Wednesday, November 11, 2009, 10:34

    Autobot, i dont think hope for Chike is slim. i think he needs rehabilitation, he also needs to see a psychiatrist

  16. DEEDE said on Wednesday, November 11, 2009, 10:41

    Chike its a good thing to share your problems with people, its the firsst step in ovrecoming your weakness. Talk to GOD ONLY hIM UNDERSTANDS HOW YOU FEEL. Tel your girl, if she loves you she will understand. BE DELIVERD.

  17. AYODELE OLUGBENGA said on Wednesday, November 11, 2009, 11:13

    Good morning sir keep up the good work. Sir from my own view is devilish but all the same let's keep praying for the people involved I know God will turn their situation around.
    That depend on their own faith, that God can do it

  18. Bayuu said on Wednesday, November 11, 2009, 15:17

    Chike, the Lord is your strength, if you can hold it to save your SUG status, why can't you stop it to save your life, marriage and future.

  19. Chaz "B" said on Wednesday, November 11, 2009, 18:51

    Many times in this life, we all fall into one thing or the other as far as "SIN" goes! Thats why our Lord Jesus was able to say to the mob who sought to stone the adultress woman "Let him who is without SIN cast the first stone!" …………..Therefore we must not JUDGE!__Let's try to be our Sisters and Brothers keeper- In this life we all need compassion, support, and love from one another! Even for those of us that may not be involved in this particular lifestyle, but have our own various "SINS" be it stealing, Adultry,Rape,Abuse??__Please people lets be careful about how we point fingers..OK? Instead lets learn to simply………"SHOW LOVE..__……………………………JUST BECAUSE"__Love Always………Chaz "B"

  20. Yinka said on Wednesday, November 11, 2009, 20:30

    I was almost initiated when i was still a young boy, thank God it never happened, and some time ago i had some guy toasting and begging me with promises that he will take good care of me, and also by His grace i never bent to his pressures and those from other guys. It is very pathetic and confusing what pleasures are derived from such act, but who i'm i to condemn? but at the same time i won't pat anyone in it on his/her shoulders. There is a club close to my house and every sunday's you'll see young girls coming to hook up, you wonder what is going on? i guess the world is about to end. Let's just keep praying God touch their hearts.

  21. Mike said on Wednesday, November 11, 2009, 20:52

    Believe it or not, homosexuality exists in our society. The bickerings and sermons against homosexuals will still continue. If discrimination against gays is still an issue in developed countries like the US, how much more in Nigeria?

    I even hear it's a criminal offense punishable by imprisonment in Nigeria. It's unfortunate! That's why so many people are in the closet because of victimization and stigmatization. Well, just like the killing of twins in ancient Calabar because of primitive and naive beliefs ceased, we only hope that pepole will get more enlightened and at least, stop the physical and psychological muder of homosexuals.

    As for the Bible scriptures you quoted, that's a good one too! I'm surprised you didn't include the scripture on Sodom & Gomorrah because that's about the major scripture fellow christians use to justify their homophobic attitudes. Interestingly, the term "sodomy" (often used derogatorily to refer to homosexuality) actually came from that scripture.

    All i'll just say to this is that the Word of God should be rightly divided and interpreted within the right context.

  22. MAD said on Wednesday, November 11, 2009, 20:52

    i thank GOD i didnt fall into that trap way back in secondary sch. i went to a girls' only sch in oyo and there were some girls into it. we used to call those into the act "itchus". i remember then, if you were kind of close to any girl, people then to insinuate that something was going on between the two and most times these allegations push such people into the act. we had this love lane, where the girls go for "love walk" and do all sorts. Recently i watched a foreign movie "imagine u and me", this film promoted homosexuality n immediately i finished watching, i clicked on delete. the devil is really trying to sell a lot of evil acts through the media and i think its time we as individuals arm ourselves with the word of GOD to wade off every form of temptation. for those still in the act, I pray GOD Almighty will deliver them from the shackles of devil.

  23. Anonymous said on Wednesday, November 11, 2009, 21:06

    Hey Chaz B, listened to your programme today (Wednesday). Nice work you're doing. I appreciate your passion to see people healed. I must also applaud your courage for putting up this topic on air. It's something that's so rampant in our society but we tend to turn a blind eye and act like it doesn't exist.

    While I appreciate some caller's sincerity today, I also think others weren't entirely honest and it's quite understandable. I also noticed too that the guys weren't calling in to "confess" … that's also explainable, considering the kind of country we live in. If you realy want to hear people's story, I think it would be a good idea to leave an email address where people can send you their stories on an anonymous note and then, you read the stories for them on air. Well, after hearing people's comments on radio and reading people's posts online, I felt compelled to tell my own story:

    I'm a gay guy in my late 30's. It all started when I was 10 with my brother's friend who was 15 at the time. We continued making out for the next 4years until his family relocated. By this time, I was already so used to it that I persistently desired the company of guys. However, I was raised up in a strong christian home and so I usually felt guilty, confused and helpless. This led me to open up to my parents for help. I regard that as the biggest mistake of my life because of the way they handled it. Till today, I still suffer consequences of that single action of confiding in them.

    At some point in my life, I made a resolution to give up homosexuality. For the next two years, I succeeded in not having sexual relations with guys but the homosexual urges were stll there. After much struggle, I realized that running away from it is as good as running away from your arm … you cannot, because it's part of you. I would not blame people for being so hard against homosexual. I might have done the same if I wasnt gay. Truth is, if you are not one, you'd have no clue what homosexuals go through, and trust me, growing up with homosexual tendencies in this our society is a hard ordeal. My heart goes out to the teenagers who are currently discovering that they have homosexual feelings.

    Today, I'm a happy young man, successful in my career and I've been dating my partner for about 3 years now. And you know what, we're both Christians and love God. I know that'll be a hard pill for some Christians to swallow but my partner and I have been able to experience the love of God firsthand, in spite of ourselves. What's more, ever since I accepted who I am, my inner struggles and confusion ceased, and I've felt so much peace with God and myself. My partner & I have a few straight friends who know about us and though they do not endorse our lifestyle, they have accepted us for who we are and do not discriminate or condemn us.

    I wouldn't deny the fact that some people actually get healed and turn a new leaf. Sincerely, I'm happy for them! Well, not all homosexuals are devilish and wayward. From my experience and the people I've met, there are focused, intelligent, successful and God-fearing homosexuals who are happy to be who they are. You'd be amazed at how close you are to a homosexual – probably someone in your office, your neighbourhood, your church, or even in your house. Homosexuals are everywhere! And it's not just among the ladies, there's just as much occurence among men – students, professionals, athletes, husbands – you name it.

    Homosexuals aren't demanding an acceptance of the lifestyle, it's just a request for the right to live freely, without the fear of being assassinated!

  24. dele said on Wednesday, November 11, 2009, 21:12

    So, whats you point pal? If you are to rightly divide and interpret the Word of God, what is Biblical POV on Homosexually? Lets hear you.

  25. dele said on Wednesday, November 11, 2009, 21:16

    Hi pal, glad to read your story. Actually, the step one to the healing process is the inner peace and the conviction of who you are. Thank God you are not confused about what you feelings are.

    The next step is to find God's position on this subject matter.

    Being focused, intelligent, successful and God-fearing are all human standards.

    Find God's standard and POV of life through what the Bible says only. Live by it. If you need assistance, Bible permits you to know that God can use people to help you without being discriminated.

    Stay blessed bro.

  26. dele said on Wednesday, November 11, 2009, 21:18

    I guess some people are missing the point. The point is forget who discriminate other people for being Homosexual, forget what people think, What is God's point of view through the Bible only?

  27. holate said on Wednesday, November 11, 2009, 22:21

    hello guys, i listened with keen interest today because i dont know if am gay, i have been making love to my fellow guys from when i was 7 years old, when i got to Federal Governemt College, my seniors made love to me i enjoyed it knowing fully wll that is not goo, am a very handsome guy, girls run to me and i dont feel sexually attracted to them, guys also come to me and they mostly lure me to make love to them. when i got to the univerisity, i changed, i started helping guys in this situation and but there was this guy, he vowed to make love to me so when i was councelling him, he said he was ok but he still persuaded and called me "darling", 'dady', so many other names, an after yrs, h got it, am not prou of it at all, i finish skl an wnt for NYS. right now, i need a girlfriend… i need help.

  28. Jennifer said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 5:34

    Hi Dele didn't you listen to Chaz B quotations on Monday and Wednesday, pls try and listen on Friday am sure he will repeat it.
    Thank you

  29. kulchureman said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 5:40

    The mind, they say is a complex device, it acts and works on the information you feed it with. Therefore i beseech you Chike, pray for a change of heart and work on your mindset. Say to yourself that are not gay but a straight guy who is meant to be with a woman. It is not easy as it sounds, but with prayer, it is well.

  30. kulchureman said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 5:45

    AutoBot, who are you to judge others? Are you God, do you know what these guyz are going through for you to say they should face a death penalty !! You are not a sainnt bro, you have your skeletons in ur own cupboard. All we could do is to help these people with prayer.

  31. @tuneofjands said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 6:09

    homosexuality is not normal people involved it need help we should not trade what is right with wrong.The scriptures clearly states it and GOD destroyed a city because of it.If you are involved in you need CHRIST to grant you deliverance.His arms are wide open waiting for you come.WHY DONT YOU MAKE THAT DECISION AND ASK THE LORD JESUS CHRIST TO SAVE YOU!
    LEVITICUS 18:22 – You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination.
    LEVITICUS 20:13 – If there is a man who lies with a male as those who lie with a woman, both of them have committed a detestable act; they shall surely be put to death. Their blood guiltiness is upon them.
    ROMANS 1:26-27 – For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error.

  32. anon said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 7:06

    autobot sam, i dont understand you. you sound sick. the people you want shot are in the same boat as you. trust me, no difference. i pray God intervenes in your life.

  33. Ify said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 8:36

    Hmm Chike, your matter is in two parts. That you are homosexual is one thing, but dragging a non consenting lady with you is another thing entirely. Unless you tell that girl and she agrees to stick with you in your homosexual state, I beg you in the name of God, set her free. Pls put her first and not your self. Even if you drop homosexuality today, she needs to know of your past lifestyle and accept you for who you are/ were if your marriage is to make any meaning. Dont know if you like reading books, but the book 'a good woman' by danielle steele tells a story like yours. The end is heartbreak for all involved. Dont even let children come into the picture.

    Then yourself…my bros, your are not even 'a faithful homosexual'. Check out your line up….cleaners, okada guys,desperate and materialistic guys,handsome guys….only you one! No now? How does it sound? Im not judging you, but check it out yourself. Where will you draw the line?

  34. Ify said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 8:43

    Ify to Chike con'd
    You say you need assistance….let me tell you. God loves you. He hates your acts but he loves you. He demonstrated his love for you cos while you were still a sinner, he sent Jesus to die for you (rom 5:8). Your only hope is in God. Give your life to Jesus. If you can find any where in the bible where homosexuality is condoned, then by all means follow it. But if you cannot, see the verses chaz b has written above especially the whole of romans 1 and know what God expects of you. Once you decide in your heart, God will see you through the rest. God has set before you this day , life and good,( his way)or evil and death(opposed to his way). Chose life that you might live. Deut 30:15-20. You will need help and support. — See chaz b and his team. May you find the help you seek . God Bless you, Chike .

  35. oraelosi kenechukwu said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 10:52

    i just want to say for the lesbians, it seems so fashionable because of the feminist movement, which is a result of the fact that they dont need men , dont want to NEED men. and this is because they want to for once feel significant. worthy. worthy in a world that seems to have been made for only men. men who have abused the position given to them by God to make women feel like nothing. we guys-from the child who at his young age already learns to talk rudely to the female maid, or young aunt in his house, to the teenager whose used to his sisters doing everything for him, and his parents giving him all the oppurtunities because he is the only son or the first son, to the adult male who sees women not as valuable treasures to cherish but rather dispensable objects. we guys have a lot to attone for.

  36. Keme said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 11:02

    Dear chike, am glad you have taken a bold step by owning up, like one of the comments on this post, if you could hold it to save your SUG post you can also do it for CHRIST not for the woman cos the bible says that even men will forsake you. Your hope and trust should be in christ the authour and finisher of our faith, there is nothing he cannot do. the change process is not going to be easy, but with constant supplication, prayers and more time on the word of God, your thoughts will be spiritually guided. Give your life to christ which is the first BOLD step and God will grant you the grace to remain in his presence. As for the Lady, please tell her cos she might be God's instrument for the redemption of your soul. If she loves you, she will stand by you.
    We will uphold you in prayers. Stay blessed

  37. oraelosi kenechukwu said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 11:15

    true. but the times you learnt the best was when your parents or when your teacher didn't laugh at you for not knowing the right answer and instead lovingly explained it to you with so much concentration and involvement that showed that they strongly believed you could grasp it and learn it, and afterward encouraged u and told you you were smart or something. that's the same way chaz b wants u to treat them. have u ever heard the saying 'the only reason your teacher is your teacher is because he knows what u dont'? for some of these guys its because they dont know the right thing to do. for those homosexuals who DO know the right thing to do but haven't done it yet, remember the times when in school you had to practice the lessons over and over again to learn them. or did u always learn everything at once in school?i think the same thing should be applied to them

  38. oraelosi kenechukwu said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 11:22

    sir. SIR. if you were the one that initiated this show- sharing life issues- then thank you for doing one simple but hard to do and very rare act-LISTENING TO GOD.

  39. temitope said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 14:12

    chike, this is not time to crusify you or to judge you cos if anyone does that he/she should judge him/herself in the first place like wat chaz will always say………..but wat i av for you is that you first need to inform your fiance wat ever you struggling wit,if you loves you truly she will stay and fight the battle together with you wit a sincere heart am living testimony to this, i told my finance wat have done in the past it was as terrible has wat is happening to you now but thank God she really stood by me and we both overcame it.
    Also yourself u need to be despirately ready to make change on this matter create a mind set in you that you want to leave this act and never go back to it again…..may God help you

  40. God's grace said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 14:52

    hi, I prefer to be called God's grace. When I was young I used to act drama with my female cousin and friends and in the process we practise what we see in the movies our elder sisters watch. from dia the acting with female friends was not like a crime but we always hid so we wont be caught by our elder sisters. the last time I had such experience was when I finished secondary shool. I took GCE and my family members travelled for a wedding and suggested i stayed with a family friend, at night I felt some one touching me it happened to be their daughter, I succumbed not because she was attracted to me but because I felt she wanted something from me that I didnt want t withold(sounds silly) but I finished secondary school at a tender age.
    I know I cant get involved in it any more coz I didnt enjoy it, after dat day I had to go sleep alone at my place. Its been awhile but it hurts me a great deal when I remember it. All we need to do is pray for all those involved to stop. I was inspired by the programme.

  41. christy said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 16:37

    Chike hear this, GOD loves so very much to hate you are HIs image (Gen. 1vs26) . The only thing He asking you to do now is to come to Him, as a son running towards his father for mercy.
    Remain bless.

  42. Ehi said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 18:40

    Hi, being a gay is not natural, its a spirit but there is nothing too hard for God to do… When u are will to give him a chance to work healing & deliverance in ur life.If such really need liberation, him/her need to first acknowledge it to be wrong, repent and ask God for help… Because God does not hate us John 3:16 & 17; I will keep praying for u guys and others out there….Remain blessed. Chaz B, I love u guys…..

  43. Ehi said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 18:51

    Brother… It is one thing to be a Christian and another to be really born again…. I feel what u are saying and i can only imagine your pains… But there is nothing anyone can do for u if u are not first ready to do ur own part, which is to accept dat ur acts are wrong not becos of societal values but becos of God's value for mankind… He made man and woman for the purpose of companionship which man and man or woman and woman can not give… If u are sincere enough to look deep down into ur own veryself, u will notice that something is missing… That is the original nature of God in u. Do not condemn urself for God has not yet condemned u; Keep away from same sex, Its not easy, but someone told me, "if u want to do away with an old character u need to create a new one" I will keep praying for u… But u must hunger for a change.. There is nothing like "I CAN NOT" its "I WON'T" Keep trying and God will see u through…

  44. Dum said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 19:51

    Men!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! what am i hearing. Honestly the mere fact that we are discussing this means Gay right and animal right is coming soon!. It going to be ; they have right, God loves them too and what!!!!!!!!!!!? Are u kidding me.

    Sorry o ! Get out of that act bro G and sis lele or cone, the bible calls the act “unseemly”!

    Chaz, point of correction, yes sin is sin but there are acts of sin God himself pointed out as ABOMINATION!!! and outlined dread punishment if one is caught in the act.

    In the time of Moses ( God bless his soul) a Gay will be stoned to death or hanged through his asshole! What is there to enjoy in ones kind? it feels like eating eba with eba men! As kids we were all expose to a lot of things but the good way always comes out and its always a matter of choice no matter the congenital b******t some might want to apply Chaz.!
    Please lets stop encouraging them that God loves them, its the other way round and they should turn around and be straight and ask for forgiveness. Thats when God’s love and grace applies.

    I rest……………….

    haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  45. Ehi said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 18:55

    Mr. B. The bible even said Elijah is just like us (of like passion)…. Pastors are human beings, just like u and i who can fall into temptation anytime if not careful; that is the reason God gave us his love and word so we wont be decived…. Please do not crucify him… U are blessed.

  46. Ehi said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 19:05

    U need God not a girl friend… Becos being a gay is not greater than being a fornicator. While being a gay is bad even so sleeping with a girl that u are not legally married to… So my brother, u need Jesus not a girl. God will help u if u not only draw closer to him but also trust and obey him.
    U can not try to bring someone out of a pit when u are not well balanced at d top… Keep away… If u make it a "do or die" affair, u will survive it.
    U are blessed.

  47. holate said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 21:54

    thanks but i know i have Jesus in my life i also think am attracted to men more than to ladies i know that God is healing me gradually, thanks thanks.

  48. dele said on Thursday, November 12, 2009, 22:47

    haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  49. Nnaemeka said on Friday, November 13, 2009, 10:38

    Chaz-B you are doing great. In fact you are touching and changing lives with your programme. God bless you

  50. ujay noble said on Friday, November 13, 2009, 11:08

    the first step towards solving this problem is realizing that is wrong and that you need a help,which chike has done.next is controlling your thoughts.i, am in my mid-twenties and i am going through a lot sexually, i have high sex drive and when the urge comes, i used to do anything(especially masturbation) to release the tension.i also used to have this dream where a huge monster would come and sodomite me.It started when i was about twelve though i didn't know what it was but when i got know about homosexually, i began thinking that am gay,because each time i have that dream, i would be moody, thinking that something was wrong with me and that i am not man enough.but after reading about a young American pastor who had similar problem and how he overcame it i put it into practice and today no more monsters in my dreams ,now more feeling am less a man and no more masturbations,what i did,was to pray to God for the revelation (note the word— revelation)knowledge of his word, the word of God works but you have to believe,it is not going to an easy thing because the devil is going to fight back but be consistent even if you had another sex in that way, forgive yourself and read some scriptures assuring God and yourself that you will not do it again,continue this way and you will see that you can do all things through him who gives you strength and his name is Jesus Christ .have a personal relationship with him and you will see yourself being that chike you want to be.Be strong bro !

  51. MARIE said on Friday, November 13, 2009, 16:20

    Chaz it is well o……..Do you know that there is a gay church in festac town…….. i dont have the address detail but it is as true as the air we breath….. looking forward to a great edition today

  52. Ify said on Friday, November 13, 2009, 19:47

    Good one ujay noble. A testimony is always refreshing.

  53. Usy said on Saturday, November 14, 2009, 11:13

    AW! i missed the radio show. I have gone through some of the discussion and my deduction is that, 1. we need Gods intervention, 2. we need to make use of our clinical psycologist more in this part of the world,go gave us brain to help solve human problems 3. like the guy that told his parents and now regrets, i think our level of literacy in handling emotional issues needs to be re- visited. we do not need to condem, our crises management in this part of the world is so crude. only Love can heal wounds, 4. parents need to pay more attention to the upbring of there children rather than purse money and send the kids on holiday or foreign schools that expose them to this ill behaviour, sexaul abuse is on the increase, now, and its the devils plot to ravage the next generation of youth.
    I am not supporting this ilicite act, but some of it are casued by our own ignorance. what would you say of a nanny that abuses a child left in her care, or a driver abusing the bosses son.
    we need to guard our selves and take responsibility for those in our care.

  54. Usy said on Saturday, November 14, 2009, 11:15

    Chaz B, well don! when will you talk about my own case!!

  55. chuks emeka said on Sunday, November 15, 2009, 8:44

    it more than what everyone is saying!!
    chaz B i can't say tell my story till i see you on saturday during counselling……..
    this is Emeka(07060530053).

  56. yinka said on Monday, November 16, 2009, 11:09

    We cannot talk about the demonic act without making mention of pornography, so many of our youths have taken to porn and that is why so many of them are into homosexualism, their body responds to what they see, and brings about the desire and from desire into doing it. Porn has caused alot of havoc, thank God for an organization like http://www.pinkcrossfoundation.org who is fighting the menace.

  57. Deede said on Monday, November 16, 2009, 12:30

    This is a very sensitive topic which should be treated with care. I wont condem those involed in the act because no one is prefect. The bible made us to understand that homosexuality is a sin against God, that was the main reason why Sodom and Gomorah was destroyed. I will only advuse that those involed go for counselling. God loves you. Pls dont think it is normal for God created them male and female. Chaz what about those who masturbate? whats their fate?

  58. Oby I. (Princess) said on Monday, November 16, 2009, 12:32

    Inn Homosexuality, we have said it all and crowned it with GOD being the helper from this type of SIN, through his Son, Jesus Christ. Let me add that "Self determination & Discipline" will go a long way.

    We are never perfect, but with God on our side, and we are determined to make a CHANGE towards bad attitude, then we conscientiously work towards it. It's not easy, but there are ways out of it.

    Well done Chaz, God bless you as you bless us through this medium – Sharing Life Issues with Chaz B.

  59. Samuel said on Monday, November 16, 2009, 13:02

    It is real, my brother. I was a victim.

  60. Adeniji M. Akinwande said on Monday, November 16, 2009, 15:39

    Lesbianism. gay-ism, or whatever? The bible made it clear that we should flee from all appearances of evil……….

  61. Onyx said on Monday, November 16, 2009, 18:16

    Chaz B, i think every victim of homosexualism should cry out to God for help. It is one thing to need help and it is another thing to tell God u need help. They should not be ashamed. let anyone that wants to condemn go ahead and condemn God knows how to handle each and everyone of us according to all our desires. I am praying for them specially. It is welll!!!!

  62. Lizzy said on Tuesday, November 17, 2009, 11:26

    Not to him that runneth or to him that willeth but it is of the mercy of God, it is a priviledge that we are not consumed, those that are gay,lesbian not what they want, we only need to pray for them and encourage to come out of it. l went to all girls school, l saw it happen, but l was never part of it, not becuse l am holy but that gentle voice(Holy Spirit) was the one guiding me, telling me the right and the wrong things, if l did my parent will never know, but what about God?, He was there watching and al so telling those girls not to do it,but peer pressure, l want to belong drove many to what we call then lessy,(lesbian). Chaz B, God bless you as you keep bring the knowledge of God to us everyday.

  63. Rashidii Williams said on Wednesday, November 18, 2009, 17:10

    First I will commend you for the bringing up this topic. But I will be very fast in saying that homosexuality is no SIN. We need go back to bible and look again at those texts that speaks on the subject. Disscussion like this with outright condemnation of homosexcualkity gives more room to discrimination of homosexuals persons in Nigeria.

    I think we need, not just I but the whole of Nigeria about what the Bible really says on the subject of homosexuality.

    I will be here if you did agree to discuss this subject in relation to the Bible.

    Rashidi Williams
    Founder/Director, Queer Alliance Nigeria
    queer.alliance040@gmail.com
    07058571461

  64. Oludare said on Wednesday, November 18, 2009, 17:13

    You cannot change a homosexual.All the factors listed above do not cause someone to become homosexual.

  65. yinka said on Wednesday, November 25, 2009, 20:52

    Time wasters are lurking everywhere, but just too bad that we get carried away by emotions or rather infatuation than allowing our minds through the holy spirit decide for us.

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