Comments on: Relationships With Fathers, Bad or Testimony? http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/2009/10/29/relationships-with-fathers-bad-or-testimony/ Wed, 28 Jul 2010 15:44:12 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: OLA http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/2009/10/29/relationships-with-fathers-bad-or-testimony/comment-page-1/#comment-687 OLA Thu, 10 Jun 2010 13:55:55 +0000 http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/?p=160#comment-687 i never grow up wit both parents staying together my father work outside the city then but later came back home when he was retrenched without informing us and packed his belongings to his hometown now he's a civil servant one good-thing is that in his own littte way he still pays our fees and thats allbut he doesn't come to see us we have to travel to see him including my mum i never grow up wit both parents staying together my father work outside the city then but later came back home when he was retrenched without informing us and packed his belongings to his hometown now he's a civil servant one good-thing is that in his own littte way he still pays our fees and thats allbut he doesn't come to see us we have to travel to see him including my mum

]]> By: Gboyega http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/2009/10/29/relationships-with-fathers-bad-or-testimony/comment-page-1/#comment-686 Gboyega Thu, 10 Jun 2010 09:06:17 +0000 http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/?p=160#comment-686 Growing up for me was fun having both parents to look up to. although my dad was strict, I still saw him as one to look up to. He was very close to my mum and both of them were each other's confidant. I look forward to coming back from lesson every evening to share in their daily experiences. However, like every human, he had his fault which was alcohol. This to a large extent affected so many things and besides, he was too loose on my younger ones and as a result, my younger brother lives life like someone who doesn't know what he wants from life. The importance of a father from what I experienced from my parents was that, he is the one who assist in making a child what he/she becomes in the future. He gives the final approval to whatever mummy says and help build the child's character and self confidence. With this, I look forward to having a greater home than that of my parents and I am so grateful because my fiancee is someone who also appreciates a home greatly and it is our sincere prayers that God Almighty will grant us the grace and wisdom to nurture our kids in his ways and help them discover their individual potentials. Growing up for me was fun having both parents to look up to. although my dad was strict, I still saw him as one to look up to. He was very close to my mum and both of them were each other's confidant. I look forward to coming back from lesson every evening to share in their daily experiences. However, like every human, he had his fault which was alcohol. This to a large extent affected so many things and besides, he was too loose on my younger ones and as a result, my younger brother lives life like someone who doesn't know what he wants from life.
The importance of a father from what I experienced from my parents was that, he is the one who assist in making a child what he/she becomes in the future. He gives the final approval to whatever mummy says and help build the child's character and self confidence.
With this, I look forward to having a greater home than that of my parents and I am so grateful because my fiancee is someone who also appreciates a home greatly and it is our sincere prayers that God Almighty will grant us the grace and wisdom to nurture our kids in his ways and help them discover their individual potentials.

]]> By: damilola http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/2009/10/29/relationships-with-fathers-bad-or-testimony/comment-page-1/#comment-671 damilola Wed, 02 Jun 2010 12:32:07 +0000 http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/?p=160#comment-671 Really have never had the privilege of living with mine.He has been out of the country for like 20years and most times i feel like hating him on and on but i have no choice but to keep seeing him as my dad and keep loving him. Really have never had the privilege of living with mine.He has been out of the country for like 20years and most times i feel like hating him on and on but i have no choice but to keep seeing him as my dad and keep loving him.

]]> By: patience http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/2009/10/29/relationships-with-fathers-bad-or-testimony/comment-page-1/#comment-625 patience Thu, 22 Apr 2010 15:08:04 +0000 http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/?p=160#comment-625 Though my dad is late, i really do miss him. At times when certain things happen, i just wished he was there. he was a great dad and a disciplinarian but he was always there for me. His philosophy about life made me what i am today, he had a great / positive influence on me. But then i was always complaining that he was too strict / hard about certain things. I miss you dad and if i had the opportunity to choose over again, i will choose you. Though my dad is late, i really do miss him. At times when certain things happen, i just wished he was there. he was a great dad and a disciplinarian but he was always there for me. His philosophy about life made me what i am today, he had a great / positive influence on me. But then i was always complaining that he was too strict / hard about certain things. I miss you dad and if i had the opportunity to choose over again, i will choose you.

]]> By: oluwafunmilayo http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/2009/10/29/relationships-with-fathers-bad-or-testimony/comment-page-1/#comment-616 oluwafunmilayo Fri, 09 Apr 2010 07:16:23 +0000 http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/?p=160#comment-616 My father is a wondeful man,who use to be loving and careing not until the WITCH came in between us thats my STEPMOTHER(THE WICKED STEPMOTHER)my father still loves me that i know but that Witch has jazed him up lol,but i no God is in control My father is a wondeful man,who use to be loving and careing not until the WITCH came in between us thats my STEPMOTHER(THE WICKED STEPMOTHER)my father still loves me that i know but that Witch has jazed him up lol,but i no God is in control

]]> By: nathaniel Iyke http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/2009/10/29/relationships-with-fathers-bad-or-testimony/comment-page-1/#comment-614 nathaniel Iyke Thu, 08 Apr 2010 18:49:00 +0000 http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/?p=160#comment-614 My father is a lovely man but not someone i can share a relationship issue with. My father is a lovely man but not someone i can share a relationship issue with.

]]> By: Chidiebere http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/2009/10/29/relationships-with-fathers-bad-or-testimony/comment-page-1/#comment-556 Chidiebere Mon, 25 Jan 2010 16:34:17 +0000 http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/?p=160#comment-556 My father is the best man one can have as a father. It was quite unfortunate that I lost my Dad when I was entering into the secondary school. I really enjoyed my father while he was alive. My only regret was that the time I needed to tap from his wealth of experience and wisdom, he was no where to be found. Every thing I am to my children is the wisdom I got from the bible. I have promised myself that my children will not suffer and I also promised God that I will give them the best of knowledge. I tried my best to play with them, review their studies and take them out occasionally. No matter how stressful my job is, I tried my best to devote time to be with them. I want them to have the best of me. If they don’t learn from you, then, other people outside the family will teach them. My father is the best man one can have as a father. It was quite unfortunate that I lost my Dad when I was entering into the secondary school. I really enjoyed my father while he was alive. My only regret was that the time I needed to tap from his wealth of experience and wisdom, he was no where to be found. Every thing I am to my children is the wisdom I got from the bible. I have promised myself that my children will not suffer and I also promised God that I will give them the best of knowledge. I tried my best to play with them, review their studies and take them out occasionally. No matter how stressful my job is, I tried my best to devote time to be with them. I want them to have the best of me. If they don’t learn from you, then, other people outside the family will teach them.

]]> By: Emperor http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/2009/10/29/relationships-with-fathers-bad-or-testimony/comment-page-1/#comment-507 Emperor Tue, 12 Jan 2010 11:21:50 +0000 http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/?p=160#comment-507 Relationship with either Father or mother is very important for the wellbeing of a child. That was why God instituted marriage (family) for the child’s upbringing for a better society. If any of these relationships is missing, the child will surfer and it will take the special grace of God for healing to take place in the life of such a child to save the society. Mine is an example of such healing. I will not say I had the worst Dad ever, but he was not just a responsible father. I struggled to pass through secondary school which I will not want to go into detail. It was not a polygamous family but my dad had several mistresses outside. My mum had to go through a lot to take care of us because my father was not supportive; it was like a master-savant kind of relationship with him. You can not play when he is around, you just have to fine a place and sit quietly or he will accuse you of disturbance. The first day and the only day my dad said “how are you” in response to my greeting was surprising to me. My mum always said that God has allowed us to pass through that so that our children will not pass through it, though I lost my mum some years ago, but I still hold on to that, my children will not pass through what I did. I thank God that I survived. I was able by his grace to sponsor myself through higher institution, I am now working and soon to get married to a lady who believe so much in the family unit. Through the word of God, teachings and materials I have read, I am sure I will be a good father. Relationship with either Father or mother is very important for the wellbeing of a child. That was why God instituted marriage (family) for the child’s upbringing for a better society. If any of these relationships is missing, the child will surfer and it will take the special grace of God for healing to take place in the life of such a child to save the society.
Mine is an example of such healing. I will not say I had the worst Dad ever, but he was not just a responsible father. I struggled to pass through secondary school which I will not want to go into detail. It was not a polygamous family but my dad had several mistresses outside. My mum had to go through a lot to take care of us because my father was not supportive; it was like a master-savant kind of relationship with him. You can not play when he is around, you just have to fine a place and sit quietly or he will accuse you of disturbance. The first day and the only day my dad said “how are you” in response to my greeting was surprising to me. My mum always said that God has allowed us to pass through that so that our children will not pass through it, though I lost my mum some years ago, but I still hold on to that, my children will not pass through what I did. I thank God that I survived. I was able by his grace to sponsor myself through higher institution, I am now working and soon to get married to a lady who believe so much in the family unit. Through the word of God, teachings and materials I have read, I am sure I will be a good father.

]]> By: Ibiye Alalibo http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/2009/10/29/relationships-with-fathers-bad-or-testimony/comment-page-1/#comment-502 Ibiye Alalibo Sat, 09 Jan 2010 17:05:33 +0000 http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/?p=160#comment-502 I've got two fathers. Biological and adopted. The first one abandoned me while I was still in the womb with 5 others alive; my elder ones (4 boys and 1 girl). He categorically told my mum that with this last pregnancy, that's me inside, she's going to suffer! What a human! My mom saw all of us through school, at least secondary level. He never showed up, not even to claim his 4 sons. He's still alive today, waiting to reap where he has not sown. Some of my brothers have indeed gone looking for him saying they needed to know their roots, nothing but trouble came out of it. I never felt his absence because my mom was providing adequately for us though it wasn't rosy all the way. Four years ago, my Daddy adopted me. It's with his coming I see all I'd missed because he's a father indeed. We (biological and adopted(5)), we tell him his the best, the bomb, the man... name it. He's a man full of wisdom, he gives his children the freedom to be themselves, we are at home with him, even when we offend him, he forgives without recounting your sins to you. He has a big heart, apart from we the children, we've others that live with us and he's a father to them as well. I told him once that he's like a big tree giving shelter to the birds of the air. One of my sister calls him "God sent", other times I tel him he's an angel. He's a christain and a pastor, a true follower of Christ. Although, I'll soon be married now, I'm so grateful to God to receive the love of an earthly father. I've come to realise that my relationship with my father will affect me greatly in my marriage. I've learnt a lot from him, had I gotten married without experiencing the love of a father, my marriage would have been a ship wreck! Not because of my own doing, but because of my subconscious mind or so. Don't really know how to put it. I've learnt to be soft towards the man i would marry, submit to him, love him, serve him etc. My dad takes time to teach us all these because he believes in the institution of marriage and that couples can be and should be happy. Before this time, my mum had always told us that because she had a bad marriage does not mean there are no good marriages and she encouraged us to believe in that. She's always happy to see happily married couples and says she doesn't wish even her enemy a failed marriage. Also, I have a great relationship with my mum. Even before my adoption, I gave her no troubles. We're still close. Family friends call us "5 and 6", "twins", mummy's handbag" and all. I love my mum and dad! In all, there are good fathers and terrible ones! We pray for the best and I would like to appeal to everyone on this forum, lets seek to be the best, whether as fathers or as mothers to our children, so the world can gradually become a safe haven. I've got two fathers. Biological and adopted. The first one abandoned me while I was still in the womb with 5 others alive; my elder ones (4 boys and 1 girl). He categorically told my mum that with this last pregnancy, that's me inside, she's going to suffer! What a human! My mom saw all of us through school, at least secondary level. He never showed up, not even to claim his 4 sons. He's still alive today, waiting to reap where he has not sown. Some of my brothers have indeed gone looking for him saying they needed to know their roots, nothing but trouble came out of it. I never felt his absence because my mom was providing adequately for us though it wasn't rosy all the way.

Four years ago, my Daddy adopted me. It's with his coming I see all I'd missed because he's a father indeed. We (biological and adopted(5)), we tell him his the best, the bomb, the man… name it. He's a man full of wisdom, he gives his children the freedom to be themselves, we are at home with him, even when we offend him, he forgives without recounting your sins to you. He has a big heart, apart from we the children, we've others that live with us and he's a father to them as well. I told him once that he's like a big tree giving shelter to the birds of the air. One of my sister calls him "God sent", other times I tel him he's an angel. He's a christain and a pastor, a true follower of Christ. Although, I'll soon be married now, I'm so grateful to God to receive the love of an earthly father. I've come to realise that my relationship with my father will affect me greatly in my marriage. I've learnt a lot from him, had I gotten married without experiencing the love of a father, my marriage would have been a ship wreck! Not because of my own doing, but because of my subconscious mind or so. Don't really know how to put it. I've learnt to be soft towards the man i would marry, submit to him, love him, serve him etc. My dad takes time to teach us all these because he believes in the institution of marriage and that couples can be and should be happy. Before this time, my mum had always told us that because she had a bad marriage does not mean there are no good marriages and she encouraged us to believe in that. She's always happy to see happily married couples and says she doesn't wish even her enemy a failed marriage. Also, I have a great relationship with my mum. Even before my adoption, I gave her no troubles. We're still close. Family friends call us "5 and 6", "twins", mummy's handbag" and all. I love my mum and dad!

In all, there are good fathers and terrible ones! We pray for the best and I would like to appeal to everyone on this forum, lets seek to be the best, whether as fathers or as mothers to our children, so the world can gradually become a safe haven.

]]> By: doris_doosh http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/2009/10/29/relationships-with-fathers-bad-or-testimony/comment-page-1/#comment-499 doris_doosh Fri, 08 Jan 2010 22:14:11 +0000 http://www.sharinglifeissues.com/?p=160#comment-499 Well, different people have different opinions about fathers depending on the relationship they had with their dad. i had a lovely dad, tough a disciplinarian cos he wanted the best of and from me. I actually looked forward to getting married becos of the way he related with my mom. Unfortunately i married someone far from being a model of my father and my father is now late, so i miss him so much. HEY DAD, wherever u are right now, i want to say i am proud i had u as a Dad. Well, different people have different opinions about fathers depending on the relationship they had with their dad. i had a lovely dad, tough a disciplinarian cos he wanted the best of and from me. I actually looked forward to getting married becos of the way he related with my mom. Unfortunately i married someone far from being a model of my father and my father is now late, so i miss him so much. HEY DAD, wherever u are right now, i want to say i am proud i had u as a Dad.

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