Comments on: Relationships With Fathers, Bad or Testimony?

By: Jude

Jude — Mon, 09 May 2011 10:08:47 +0000

Polygamy is not a good thing, but when it comes to a case whereby the man uses the excuse of the constant ail health of his wife to look for other women outside to satisfy his constant sexual urge. what case is it. My mom died six years ago and since then it has been from one woman to the other for my dad. Though he was seeing some of them when she was alive, but she was the type that doesn't like complaining so she prefers to die in silent than wash her dirty linen outside. It got to the extent that before she died she went for the introduction of my dad with another woman. May God rest her soul. I pray my dad finds Happiness in this Present Marriage

By: bunmi

bunmi — Mon, 04 Oct 2010 07:58:08 +0000

Hmm, fathers!!! we dont exist without our fathers but their impact in our life whether negative or positive has a huge influence in our character. My dad has 2 wives and really we never stayed with the other wife,we only see at family occasions so we werent close. I am the last from my mum(she is the first wife) so from what i heard, my mum was pregnant with the 3rd child when my father startyed seeing this lady that works in his office to the extent of bringin g her home whenever my mum was away at work, but its so funny now cos my mum was maltreated by my dad,though he paid our school fees and all that but there were some basic things he was lacking but its really funny that aftyer 30 years, he doesnt really want to associate with this other woman, he is claimimg to be a born again.

By: OLA

OLA — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 13:55:55 +0000

i never grow up wit both parents staying together my father work outside the city then but later came back home when he was retrenched without informing us and packed his belongings to his hometown now he's a civil servant one good-thing is that in his own littte way he still pays our fees and thats allbut he doesn't come to see us we have to travel to see him including my mum

By: Gboyega

Gboyega — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 09:06:17 +0000

Growing up for me was fun having both parents to look up to. although my dad was strict, I still saw him as one to look up to. He was very close to my mum and both of them were each other's confidant. I look forward to coming back from lesson every evening to share in their daily experiences. However, like every human, he had his fault which was alcohol. This to a large extent affected so many things and besides, he was too loose on my younger ones and as a result, my younger brother lives life like someone who doesn't know what he wants from life.
The importance of a father from what I experienced from my parents was that, he is the one who assist in making a child what he/she becomes in the future. He gives the final approval to whatever mummy says and help build the child's character and self confidence.
With this, I look forward to having a greater home than that of my parents and I am so grateful because my fiancee is someone who also appreciates a home greatly and it is our sincere prayers that God Almighty will grant us the grace and wisdom to nurture our kids in his ways and help them discover their individual potentials.

By: damilola

damilola — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 12:32:07 +0000

Really have never had the privilege of living with mine.He has been out of the country for like 20years and most times i feel like hating him on and on but i have no choice but to keep seeing him as my dad and keep loving him.

By: patience

patience — Thu, 22 Apr 2010 15:08:04 +0000

Though my dad is late, i really do miss him. At times when certain things happen, i just wished he was there. he was a great dad and a disciplinarian but he was always there for me. His philosophy about life made me what i am today, he had a great / positive influence on me. But then i was always complaining that he was too strict / hard about certain things. I miss you dad and if i had the opportunity to choose over again, i will choose you.

By: oluwafunmilayo

oluwafunmilayo — Fri, 09 Apr 2010 07:16:23 +0000

My father is a wondeful man,who use to be loving and careing not until the WITCH came in between us thats my STEPMOTHER(THE WICKED STEPMOTHER)my father still loves me that i know but that Witch has jazed him up lol,but i no God is in control

By: nathaniel Iyke

nathaniel Iyke — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 18:49:00 +0000

My father is a lovely man but not someone i can share a relationship issue with.

By: Chidiebere

Chidiebere — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 16:34:17 +0000

My father is the best man one can have as a father. It was quite unfortunate that I lost my Dad when I was entering into the secondary school. I really enjoyed my father while he was alive. My only regret was that the time I needed to tap from his wealth of experience and wisdom, he was no where to be found. Every thing I am to my children is the wisdom I got from the bible. I have promised myself that my children will not suffer and I also promised God that I will give them the best of knowledge. I tried my best to play with them, review their studies and take them out occasionally. No matter how stressful my job is, I tried my best to devote time to be with them. I want them to have the best of me. If they don’t learn from you, then, other people outside the family will teach them.

By: Emperor

Emperor — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 11:21:50 +0000

Relationship with either Father or mother is very important for the wellbeing of a child. That was why God instituted marriage (family) for the child’s upbringing for a better society. If any of these relationships is missing, the child will surfer and it will take the special grace of God for healing to take place in the life of such a child to save the society.
Mine is an example of such healing. I will not say I had the worst Dad ever, but he was not just a responsible father. I struggled to pass through secondary school which I will not want to go into detail. It was not a polygamous family but my dad had several mistresses outside. My mum had to go through a lot to take care of us because my father was not supportive; it was like a master-savant kind of relationship with him. You can not play when he is around, you just have to fine a place and sit quietly or he will accuse you of disturbance. The first day and the only day my dad said “how are you” in response to my greeting was surprising to me. My mum always said that God has allowed us to pass through that so that our children will not pass through it, though I lost my mum some years ago, but I still hold on to that, my children will not pass through what I did. I thank God that I survived. I was able by his grace to sponsor myself through higher institution, I am now working and soon to get married to a lady who believe so much in the family unit. Through the word of God, teachings and materials I have read, I am sure I will be a good father.