Comments on: What Is Your Advice For A Young Man Who Is Very Much In Love With A Lady And Wants To Settle Down With Her But Her Mother Wants Her To Go After More Men In Pursuit of Money!!!

By: rella

rella — Wed, 22 Dec 2010 10:06:08 +0000

i'm igbo from anambra. spent most of my life in lagos. i studied in Imo state uni., owerri. what i saw in terms of relationship n marriage is appalling. those days were days when i wasn't in the Lord. i was in the car when my 419 toaster stopped somewhere near former stb to buy weed. his friend waited in the car. then this woman came out 5 minutes after asking us why we parked our car here that her daughter's men would be coming and our isn't up to theirs. so his friend engaged her in a conversation relating to what she said next thing she said in igbo was do you have what it takes to shag my daughter?
my head screamed. she didn't stop but went on to say that it's her son who grows and sell the weed. she said all these with extreme pride!!!!!!!!!!! 'tis is no joke, walahi!!!!!!

By: anonymous

anonymous — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 20:14:48 +0000

chidinma, pls take it easy with Chaz B.

By: mmalove

mmalove — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 16:30:23 +0000

Chaz B, If the picture i saw is u, u r really ahandsome man, what i have to say to the lady is this, She doenst know what love is all about, i believe so much on what d word of God says about love, Love is kind, tenderhearted, patience, it covers all wrong. IF the lady is in love with this and she has a strong will, she will not do what the mother wants to do. My pastor said something, an i believe him. He said that the strength of a man or woman is in d ability to say no. Chaz B, you r a person of love, i heard it in ur voice, how u speak to people with love and respect. God will increase ur ability. I love u Chidinma

By: kensport

kensport — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 16:12:15 +0000

Issues like this are so barbaric to my own oponion.Human always believe that happeness is achieve by being rich.We always forget that the rich man in the bible could buy his way to heaven.Such a mother should by made to serve some terms in prison.

By: erhabor

erhabor — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 15:43:06 +0000

u know i think it has more to do with the girl in question than the mother, if the girl truly loves this guy, she should be mature enough to know that its she who wants to get married and not the mother, so if she follows her mothers plans for her than she'll obviously be gettin her mothers wishes and not hers, yes she might end up getting married to a very rich guyb but eventually end up being a prisoner in her own house or worse still be physically and sexually abused by the man she calles husband. My advice to the dude is to talk some sense into the girl, hoping that in turn the girl would talk some sense into the mothers head (thats if mother and daughter are not conspiring together to squeeze our dear brother dry) in that instance……please run ooo!

By: Onyx

Onyx — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 15:39:46 +0000

Chaz-B, it’s just unfortunate that; that lady has such a woman as a mother, i support the opinion that THE GUY SHOULD WALK AWAY, i don’t how old the relationship is if at this stage he has not been able to effect any change in the girl’s life then i wonder if there would be any if they continue or get married.
But for the girl, i’ll like to give the following advice:
Firstly, the decision is in her hand; she’s found a guy who loves her and ready to marry her; she should listen to the guy and not her mother’s even the bible says obey your parent IN THE LORD……
Secondly, she needs to know that anything that becomes of her; she is responsible for it, that type of a mother will deny her tomorrow i’m damn sure of that.
Thirdly, if it is a generational thing, she should be ready to separate herself from this ”generational curse” and make a difference in her generation by separating from her mother. There are so many people that grew up without parents. So she won’t be the first. she needs to take her destiny in her hands.
Lastly, she should know that after her mother’s escapades with her, there is a greater mother and father up there (God) who is going to ask her what she’s done with her life. So the earlier she stands up for her life the better for her.

Onome

By: Napoleon

Napoleon — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 11:37:15 +0000

I do not totally agree with you mate. No matter what the man does, the girls mother still has a stronger hold on her, and its just a matter of time before she gets her wish. And ladies tend to change their mind at the slightest conviction(no disrespect to d ladies). The guy should just move on with his life and pray to find a better love somewhere else…the issue has danger sign written all over it.

By: Buddy

Buddy — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 08:51:37 +0000

The man should be wise and ask his girl some pertinent questions on how she feels about the issue without letting her realise she is going through an interrogation process. Her responses and attitude will help him decide on what steps of action should be taken. The mother of the lady is not wrong in wishing for her daughter to get married to a wealthy man, afterall, money is the only language understood in our own part of the clime.

By: sola

sola — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 08:29:02 +0000

Chaz B, we now live in the generation of money conscious guys and gals but it is not a pointer to the fact that gud guys and gals are no where to be found. let the guy let go of the gal and start his life all-over. this might look tuff but with time he will get over it. he should remember that the gal is not worthy of his genuine love, one day he will find his missing rib if he stays faithful.

By: bukkies31

bukkies31 — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 22:41:14 +0000

i listened to the show on friday and i felt so sorry for the guy invovled,am sure the its not easy for him to leave the lady thats why he asked for help,but i think he should leave the lady because if after all he did for the family the mum can still influence the daughter against him then if he marries her except the mother becomes history he would never have full control over his wife meaning he wont enjoy his marriage.